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FI deciding to have an opinion 4 weeks before the wedding!

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#1 mrs*j*2011

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    Posted 04 December 2010 - 05:56 PM

    Gahhhh!  My FI decided this morning (29 days before our wedding) that he doesn't like his wedding day outfit and wants to change it.  He couldn't have told me this 5 months ago when I could have returned everyone's shirts and gotten my money back?!


    So instead of short sleeve linen shirts for him (ivory) and his best man (orange), he wants to wear a long sleeve white dress shirt with the sleeves rolled up.  He thinks the BM can still wear the original shirt but I'm thinking it's the total opposite style and it is going to look out of place.  Not to mention both dads will be wearing that type shirt too. 


    It's not a big deal in the grand scheme of things, and it's his wedding too, but I'm still a little irritated!  He said he'd wear what I want him to if I'm pissed about it but I've made every decision so far and I don't want him to be uncomfortable and/or unhappy.


    What should I do?  Part of me wants to at least find a new shirt for the best man to at least match my FI and leave the dads as they are.  Will it look weird if they're wearing different style shirts?

    ~~ Lea ~~
    January 2, 2011 ~ Sandals Royal Caribbean
    (honeymooning at Couples Negril)


    #2 clgriffi7

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      Posted 04 December 2010 - 07:07 PM

      I say that you should let your fiance keep the new shirt - as you said it is his wedding too.  But I would be ticked too that he waited so late to speak up.  I think your best bet is to get a new shirt for the best man if you think things won't look right together.  The dads don't have to match the grrom & best man.

      #3 ChicagoPT

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        Posted 05 December 2010 - 06:43 AM

        l would say let him wear what he wants. My DH wore a ivory tommy bahama shirt (short sleeve), the GMs wore same type but from target, my dad wore green, DH dad wore dark blue, my brother (walked me down the aisle too) wore light green.  It actually came out great with all the different styles and colors. 

        #4 DiamondGirl

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          Posted 05 December 2010 - 07:18 PM

          I agree, let him wear what he feels comfortable wearing. I say... save yourself the trouble and leave it as is. I think it'll look great anyway. However, if it's really going to irritate you, then change the BM shirt. Leave the Dad's as is. Good Luck!!

          #5 islandbride8

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            Posted 07 December 2010 - 11:30 AM

            I would be furious at my FI, but like people have already said, it is his wedding too and you're just going to have to roll with the punches.  I wouldn't stress out too much about everyone's shirts matching, but if it's going to bug you then go ahead and get the BM a new shirt

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