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Cash Wedding Registry - Is Anyone Doing This?

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My MOH said she's doing a shower for me. I said: great - but I don't need anything. SHE said she'll do it cash shower.  We found wording on the net about wishing well, we put it at the back of the invite (tacky or not), and did say that you place money in the wishing well (only if you wish to participate) and make a wish ... along those lines.  My MOH's step dad will make an actual replica of a wishing well, we'll decorate it, and put a sign on it, make a wish ... no mention of money/coin on the well.. just : make a wish.  You must be prepared though that people will bring you gifts, regardless.

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Oh I really like the wishing well idea. I wish I would have known that before my mom's friend made the invitations.

 

"Presentation" just means money, bascially. I see it alot on wedding invitations.

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I grew up in a culture that gives cash but not my FI's.  I shared my feelings with his side but they insisted that I should register and did not feel comfortable in spreading the word that we want cash.  I compromised and did a very small one.  So far we've received gifts from people who will not be attending.  I kind of wished that I didn't register because I have a feeling that people won't get the hint and will try to buy things that are similar to what's on the registry and "guess" what we want.  But a gift is a gift, right?  :P

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For us we specifically put on our website that we don't want any gifts, as people choosing to spend alot of money coming to our wedding, is gift enough. We have also been living together for a long time now, and we already have our house etc.. so we decided not to register anywhere. I think that if people are so inclined to give us a gift even after we say we don't need or want anything, then they will do it on their own accord whether it be a toaster or money etc... ;) 

 

That's just what we are doing though.. it think it is whatever the Bride and Groom want.. it is quite common for people to ask for money rather than gifts now.. the tricky part is just finding the right wording, or way to present it, that doesn't seem tacky :)

 

Good luck! :)

 

 

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It seems that recently more and more people are giving money without even being asked...money or gift cards. A friend of mine just got married and she did several gift registries. She actually mentioned her disappointment (she loves giving and getting gifts), because 90% who came opted for the cash/gift card route, when she really wanted presents...even if it meant 3 toasters, and 2 coffeepots...(you can always return or re-gift was her feeling).

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I wasnt planning on doing a registry either because like a lot of you stated, people who are nice enough to take their vacation time and money to come to the wedding is a gift in itself, but I do understand there are going to be people who are not able to come but still would like to send a gift so I'm not sure how to go about that...Maybe register somewhere easy like Target or Amazon and place it on the website but state that the presence at the wedding is a gift enough so please do not feel a gift is necessary? 

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We're skipping this purely because our guests have already paid lots of money to spend the day with us, i feel guilty if i asked for cash or presents

I agree, I don't think it's a good idea since going to a destination wedding is quite expensive. If someone really wants to give you something they will find a way without you asking for it or putting it on a invitation, website etc.

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here's how I handled it on our website:

 

http://jdandkellyswedding.weebly.com/registry.html

 

it basically says that if you're coming, that's your gift to us. but if you can't and would like to send something, we registered at BB&B. the whole registry process was super-fun. I realize that not everyone needs a toaster but sheets? towels? bathmats? those things are always welcome, and I heard that you can return gifts from BB&B for cash. the bulk of our registry is comprised of $10 or less kitchen implements, which means we'll finally have nice stuff. (we combined households and are still on the college hand-me-downs ; ). we also skipped the $500 calphalon sets (lovely as they were) because I didn't want my grandparents to send something expensive in lieu of them attending the wedding.

 

my brother did a cool online cash registry that was linked with paypal. basically, you could donate $$ to items he set up like 'Drinks on the Beach in Hawaii - $40' or 'Horseback Riding on the Beach - $75' or 'Helicopter Excursion - $150'. I don't think it matters what you use the money for - people will just be glad to have given it toward something specific I think.

 

barring everything else, I'd say word of mouth is the way to go with cash.

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In my culture, money is always the gift so I'm guessing that's what half my guests who are my relatives will give. The rest of my guests have asked me if I'm registered anywhere and I have said no. They've been a bit shocked so I explained on our wedding blog why we're not registered anywhere. I know that some of my friends really want to get us a gift despite the fact that they're coming even if I've insisted that they don't; so on the blog I also stated that if they really want to give us a gift we'd happily take gift cards to our favorite stores as well as any contributions to the fun part of our weddingmoon. I admit that it was a bit awkward for me to put that but considering all my guests are good friends, and after running it by one of my close friends, I decided that they're not the type to get offended or consider it tacky. This saves me the trouble of getting gifts I don't really need or want, and it saves them the trouble of figuring out what to get. 

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