@CurlyKristen I had a similar experience with my best friend (of over 25 years who is single).
When she got our save the date she made a really sarcastic comment about going to the DR that hurt me deeply. I chose the high rode and never addressed it. My Fiance was pissed! Well then a phone call came about 9 months before the wedding. She was asking questions (but still not helping me in any way, shape, form or fashion). I answered, thinking nothing of it until all her feedback was very negative like 'Why are you doing that?... How come you want this?...etc'. I realized what was going on & told her I had to do something and would call her back. At that moment I realized she was not supporting my DW and it hurt me so I chose not to deal with her and upset myself.
I have only heard from her twice in the past six months (through text). She stopped calling me. She text to say, she is still going but will be by herself unless she finds someone to go at the last minute. I simply responded "No worries". She can translate that into whatever she chooses. For us, it meant we are not worried about her or whatever it is she is doing.
By the way, all our guests are booked except her! Fiance says "Don't even include her in the count because what best friend isn't booked 1 month before your wedding date...She's not coming!"
I want her there but I'm a realist. & I won't even be hurt if she doesn't come. I'd rather be surrounded by people who share in my happiness. I just really thought she would be one friend who would show love & support. Guess I was wrong!
@liz24 Doesn't it suck when some people disappoint? One of my friends has stepped out the picture for no reason. I was dumbfounded. Now I question our friendship.