Involving Maid of Honor...

[islandbride8]

My fiance and I are planning a DW in Punta Cana on June 29, 2011.  We are planning a small wedding with only our closest family members so no bridal party except for my maid of honor and his best man.  My MOH is my cousin whom I grew up with and am very close to.  About 2 years ago she moved across the country to L.A. I don't want her to feel left out of the whole planning process.  How can I keep her involved?  I will only see her a max of 2 times prior to the wedding, so it would have to mostly be through the internet and over the phone.  Thanks in advance.    Sarah

[ska2m]

Hey there,

 

My MOH is also in a completely different state than i am and i definitely want her to feel a part of the party since the rest of my bridesmaid are local. So I just make sure to keep her in the loop over the phone with all my plans to date and if i am e-mailing the bridesmaid about dress shopping for their BM dresses, she is in the e-mail. I give her the option to fly down for all the dress shopping activities, but also when we go dress shopping for the BM's, i send her pics of the dresses that the girls liked and i make sure to get her input and even try to find stores in her area that she may be able to try on the same dresses! 

 

I don't know how far in the process you are with all your wedding plans, but while i am planning, i always send her pictures of what i like for centerpieces, flowers, colors and ask for her opinion. To be honest, since it is a destination wedding, you are doing most everything online anyway, so she really can't feel left out.

 

She also knows that i will let her be in charge of organizing the shower and bachelorette party (problem at the same weekend so she doesn't have to fly too many times during my wedding year). So that right there is definitely keeping her in the loop!

 

I hope this helps, but i think you'll be fine in keeping her in th eloop and not making her fee left out since she doesn't live there. Also, another suggestion if you really are feeling guilty if you have a mac or webcam, you can always bring that with you to the dress shopping with your other BM's and she can feel like she's there by seeing the girls try dresses on!  Just a thought! I did that with my wedding dress with my dad since he lives in another country!

[skp1]

I have the same thing too.  My sister is my MOH and only bridal party member and she lives in a different state.  She keeps asking me what she can do to help out and I really don't have anything.  I do try to keep her in the loop with ideas -e-mailing pics and stuff, but then I worry that I'm acting like a self-centered bride always talking about the wedding.  So i don't have any answers but welcome feedback.

[karyan]

I have all my bridal party in a different country, so am only going to see them once before the wedding. I'm putting a lot trust in them, and am hoping they at least include me in what they choose to wear for the big day!!!

 

I've left my MOH in charge of this, and just go back an forth with her when she has a question. I figure if I leave her in charge of the actual BM dresses then she feels involved but not overwhelmed..... I hope anyways

[SusanJeff2008]

I'm in the same situation where my MOH is halfway across the country. I am happy to hear your input. I've been doing a lot of e-mailing and calling to talk about it. Good luck!

[sonyaj]

My MoH is also in a different province and these are some great ideas. Webcam is a grea idea also. Thanks

[Avens]

Same here! Like an earlier poster said, most of it is online anyways!

[Sallee]

I have a wedding blog that details all of my plans and thoughts and my friends and family can all have input

I would also use Skype so you can show her pics of stuff and even try it on etc

[alyb000]

These are all really good ideas and I would've never thought about showing her stuff via webcam. My MOH is actually in the Peace Corps so I think I will also try emailing her pictures also.

[chell44]

one of my bridesmaids is out of state, and I've webcammed her in for dress fittings, bridesmaid get togethers and the invitation making party!! lol thank God for technology