Mexico Danger-wedding cancelation PLEASE HELP

[nadennec]

I just had my future SIL (FI's brothers wife) post on facebook how dangerous Mexico is, in particular in Cancun. She wrote:

 

"its crazy whats going on in Mexico! People are getting killed everywhere, they kill tourist in Cancun and the other day they killed grade school kids that were getting out of school! Crazy!! Ive never been to mexico more than a few hours but i know i wont be going anytime soon till this has stopped. And now they are raping all women and cutting up the peoples body into pieces. its crazy!"

 

How do i respond to that??? I know I should I just ignore it, but her and I dont get along to begin with, and everyrthing with her is a competition. She is already "legally" married to my FI's brother, but no one knows, and they are having their "wedding" 3 months after ours at home, so she's probably just trying to make people not want to go to ours. UGH!!!!!!!

[adales]

Wow that is some nerve that she has.  Part of me says to comment on it and make her feel stupid but then part of me says to ignore her and be the bigger person.  Maybe your facebook status should change to something about how wonderful Mexico is and how people are so uneducated on what is really happening there and the crime rates are no different than any metropolitan cities in the United States.

[nadennec]

One of my friends actually commented on it and put "so sad that you dont understand how the news sensationalizes everything. Mexico is beautiful, we were just in Michoacan the drug capital and came back in one piece. You are missing out" And this coming from one of the undubtedly nicest people in the world, so I was so happy when she wrote that. Without me even having to say anything. My FI says it just shows everyone how immature and selfish she is. But still so, UGH!!!!

[adales]

Totally!  Is she coming to your wedding?

[nadennec]

Yes, her, her husband, and three kids (10, 6, and 3 year olds) will all be there

[snowbeltchick]

And was this not the couple that was completely smashed and going around kicking cars in Playa?  And then wondered why they got arrested?

 

I feel for everyone.  Trying to pick a place to get married was probably the most stressful part of my planning so far.

 

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Originally Posted by RoxyBridetoBe 

Good for you for sticking to your plans!  My fiance and I love Cancun and planned to get married there too.  We put a down payment on a wedding package at the Gran Caribe in January for our November wedding, even though some of our guest were unsure and skeptical about travelling to Mexico.  We kept reassuring people that Cancun is safe everytime bad press came out about Mexico.  Then, this one horible story came out.  It involved a woman from our home town who travelled to Playa Del Carmen with her fiance.  She alleged that Mexican police arrested them and rapped her multiple times while they beat her fiance.  I was horified when I briefly heard the story on the radio, but after reading the details of this story, my fiance and I thought the whole thing sounded sketchy.  However, the damage was done.  People thought I was nuts to go there.  Some friends and family didn't want to go.  We ended up cancelling the wedding in Cancun and booked a date at the Dreams Palm Beach Punta Cana DR.  It did take a lot of stress off of us, but there's no place quite like Cancun.  Part of me wishes we had not cancelled.     

[cricket2168]

I can sympathize with you in this situation...My future SIL (FI's brother's wife) caused me so much grief when we originally booked Cancun, of course all behind my back though. She was running her mouth saying the all the same things and that the Mexicans are going to try to steal her son! But, it all got back to me...so I sent her an email just explaining to do her research, and she would find that all these terrible things are happening in OTHER parts of Mexico. We will be at a private resort, and just don't go wandering if you don't feel comfortable. And I put it all into very nice, concerned words. Soooo, she decided to take my email and forward it to ALL my future in-laws! Majority sided with me, (not that they feel its safe still) but it was nice of me to take it upon myself and nicely resolve a situation without making it into a situation. All but my future MIL! She freaked to begin with, but ever since that stupid email, she just doesn't speak to me now. And if she does, its all about how wonderful my future SIL is. My future BIL & her got married on a cruise. I've been on cruises. What I can't understand is why is it safer to get off at a port, go where ever you want to go in an unknown counrty without the cruise ship even knowing where you may be, safer than going to a private resort in Mexico??? I just don't get it...Aren't in-laws just wonderful!
 
 

Originally Posted by nadennec 

I just had my future SIL (FI's brothers wife) post on facebook how dangerous Mexico is, in particular in Cancun. She wrote:

 

"its crazy whats going on in Mexico! People are getting killed everywhere, they kill tourist in Cancun and the other day they killed grade school kids that were getting out of school! Crazy!! Ive never been to mexico more than a few hours but i know i wont be going anytime soon till this has stopped. And now they are raping all women and cutting up the peoples body into pieces. its crazy!"

 

How do i respond to that??? I know I should I just ignore it, but her and I dont get along to begin with, and everyrthing with her is a competition. She is already "legally" married to my FI's brother, but no one knows, and they are having their "wedding" 3 months after ours at home, so she's probably just trying to make people not want to go to ours. UGH!!!!!!!

[nadennec]

She used to be one of my best friends actually, and ever since they got secretly married its gone downhill. Any which we she can find to not get along with me she has. We all lived together for a little while which probably made it worse, but since we havent all lived together it hasn't gotten any better either. You would think in reality she would try and be nicer to me knowing that I know that they are secretly married, not wanting me to tell anyone, but she's horrible. The only reason I dont is bc it would cause problems between my FI and his brother. And even with her fb post, she deleted it last night before my FiIs brother woke up for work (he works nights) that way he doesn't even know what she put on there, and she stays looking innocent.

[nadennec]

And did I mention yesterday (the day she put up the fb post) was the day my save the dates were received by everyone in the mail??

 

Originally Posted by nadennec 

She used to be one of my best friends actually, and ever since they got secretly married its gone downhill. Any which we she can find to not get along with me she has. We all lived together for a little while which probably made it worse, but since we havent all lived together it hasn't gotten any better either. You would think in reality she would try and be nicer to me knowing that I know that they are secretly married, not wanting me to tell anyone, but she's horrible. The only reason I dont is bc it would cause problems between my FI and his brother. And even with her fb post, she deleted it last night before my FiIs brother woke up for work (he works nights) that way he doesn't even know what she put on there, and she stays looking innocent.

[yeya99]

LOL maybe you should say well you were in the water and you know what we have all been hearing about Pirat hijaking torurist in international waters! LAMO
 

Originally Posted by cricket2168 

I can sympathize with you in this situation...My future SIL (FI's brother's wife) caused me so much grief when we originally booked Cancun, of course all behind my back though. She was running her mouth saying the all the same things and that the Mexicans are going to try to steal her son! But, it all got back to me...so I sent her an email just explaining to do her research, and she would find that all these terrible things are happening in OTHER parts of Mexico. We will be at a private resort, and just don't go wandering if you don't feel comfortable. And I put it all into very nice, concerned words. Soooo, she decided to take my email and forward it to ALL my future in-laws! Majority sided with me, (not that they feel its safe still) but it was nice of me to take it upon myself and nicely resolve a situation without making it into a situation. All but my future MIL! She freaked to begin with, but ever since that stupid email, she just doesn't speak to me now. And if she does, its all about how wonderful my future SIL is. My future BIL & her got married on a cruise. I've been on cruises. What I can't understand is why is it safer to get off at a port, go where ever you want to go in an unknown counrty without the cruise ship even knowing where you may be, safer than going to a private resort in Mexico??? I just don't get it...Aren't in-laws just wonderful!