Bridesmaid or not???

[royfa]

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Originally Posted by RaydensMama Deffinetly dont have your cousin in your wedding if you dnt want her there! You dont want your day to be unhappy. Either tell her you have already chosen someone else or that you do not want a BM.

I'll ask my best friend (they hate each other )... I don't really mind, my bestfriend is always there for me when I need and I guess that's what's friends are for! My cousin is not so....

[Copita]

This is your day. You are not supposed to feel like you need to make anyone a bridesmaid or even invite someone who makes your life "miserable" to your wedding.

At the very least, do not make her a bridesmaid. For your sanity!

[NYJen]

Have you even sent STD's or invitations yet? If not, maybe you shouldn't invite this cousin at all. And you can just tell her you're keeping the wedding really small.

 

Trisha - same for you and your cousin.

[royfa]

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Originally Posted by JenandBrendan Have you even sent STD's or invitations yet? If not, maybe you shouldn't invite this cousin at all. And you can just tell her you're keeping the wedding really small. Trisha - same for you and your cousin.

I haven't send anything yet! That's a good idea I really want to keep the wedding small!

[uma1177]

I am sure your BFF will stand by you!

 

If you need another good reason, tell your cousin that because you are having a small (and private) destination wedding, everyone you love most will already be there with you. You would not want more people standing with you than in the audience, right

[Jackie]

Just tell her that you dont want to end up with a bridal party becuase it is a smaller wedding then you would have had at home and you dont want more people standing at the ceremony than sitting it would look akward. Tell her if you went ahead and had her as a bridesmaid than you would have to have a couple other people also. Thats what I told my close friends.

[Cyclone]

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Originally Posted by royfa I have an issue! My cousin really wants to be my bridesmaid but I don't really want her there! I don't feel that close to her and she's always making my life miserable. At one point I wish she just can't come to the wedding! I don't know how to say it to her without having my family on my back!!!!! Thanks! Fannie

We are not having maid of honor or best man at all. I didn't have anyone close that was going so I told Brad that he could have his brother as a best man if he wanted to but i won't have a girl up there so he said he won't have a best man either. Which made it better for him because he has 4 brothers to chose from.

One of his brothers has a girl friend who we don't want at the wedding at all because she's a drama queen. So we told him he is invited but not her. I know it sounds bad but we are having a small wedding (8-10 people ) so it's not like she'll get lost in the crowd and I don't have to deal with her, not to mention that no one else there likes her either. I just think that it's a VERY intimate wedding and I don't need her drama and attention seeking self there. She like to cause fights with Bret (her boyfriend, Brad's brother) and it would be for no reason but for attention. I don't think she can make it anyway but just in case she thinks she can come and finds a way to have someone take care of her 3 kids we let him know that she can't come. Good thing for us is that we don't think he (her boyfriend, Brad's brother) wants her there either...LOL

All that aside I agree with what everyone else said. Tell her you are not having anyone by your side or you don't need her because you already have everything that you are doing planned already.