I apologize if there is already a thread on this. I found some similiar threads, but none addressing this exact issue.
Most of family is not coming to our DW and therefore, they keep asking my mom about a shower. I am not doing a shower before the wedding, so we have decided to do an at home shower/reception (co-ed). Friends and family are preparing food, etc, but we are the ones sending the invitations indicating "hosted by friends and family".
1. Is it appropriate to have a combined co-ed shower/reception? (We really can't afford to have them separate and I live very far from most of my family.)
2. I'm stressing about sending the invitations myself, but I don't want to ask my relatives that are preparing the meals. I know the etiquette is far from their minds, but I'm still concerned.
3. We've listed at the very bottom of the invites "Registration info can be found at *weddding website address*" Again my FI and I keep debating about this, but since the event is titled as a Couples Shower I feel that we need to list some kind of registration info. Again, my family keeps asking where we are registered, so my mom thinks it perfectly fine.
There will be approximately 60 plus invitations to this event- all family and friends of the family. Most of our friends are coming to the DW and therefore, we're not inviting them. (And these friends all live close to us and not in the state of my family.)
Please help- I don't want to offend anyone, which I don't think any of this will but just wanted some extra thoughts.