I asked my aunt to be my MOH this past February - wanted to give her PLENTY of time before the wedding (MAY 2011). Of course she was delighted and started talking about all the plans and everything - she wanted to throw me a bridal shower, etc. Since then,. absolute crickets. I keep asking her if she went shopping for a dress - which I pretty much gave her carte blanche on saying it just had to be purple, she could pick any style she wanted. She says "Oh, well I keep my eye out when we're out and about..." I don't want to be mean to her, but really that's not the kind of dress you can just pick up at your local Walmart and I'd be a lot more comfortable if she had something in mind.
THEN, about a month ago, she started a new job. And now, she doesn't know if she can get the time off work. Her new employer told her not to ask for time off until she has finished her probation period of 90 days. I'm absolutely beside myself because I won't even know if she can come until mid to end October. I don't think its fair for me to ask someone else at that point if she can't make it. I empathize with her situation, however, it kind of puts me a situation of not knowing. Every time I try to discuss issues with her she deviates and changes the subject. It feels like she just doesn't have interest anymore. All those plans she was so excited about making...well I guess those never materialized... I don't care so much about that, but she shouldn't have made a big fuss about it only to not follow through. I feel quite let down.
Should I ask her to step down as MOH? How on earth do I confront her about all of this?? I don't think it's fair to make that kind of commitment to someone only to leave them hanging with 8 months to go.