OMG when I first responded, I only read the first post and didn't see the update post. That's crazy and so incredibly rude! I can't believe she would say something like that. Who is she to tell you who you have to include in your wedding, whether you should have one, and how is should be. It's your wedding, not hers! That is ridiculous. What a friend that makes her...I'm so sorry that the whole thing went sour, but to be honest, I have to say, you're better off without her att he wedding if that's how her attitude is going to be. You were being a good person by apologizing but I don't think she even deserved an apology. She should have shut her mouth and apologized to you.
Originally Posted by JanineA
Hi ladies so I tried explaining to her the cost to FI and I of having each guest attend our wedding. Things didn't go too well. She started saying why would we have a wedding and expect people not to bring their S.O. I reminded her that she didn't have an S.O. initially when everything was sent out and her response was that no one should have a wedding if they can't afford each guest bringing at least one guest. I was so shocked that really I didn't even say anything back. I tried to explain that she could bring him just not to the ceremony and she said that was an even bigger slap in the face because it would be like bringing him and then excluding him. She went on to explain that HE said even if I changed my mind HE wouldn't let her go anyway.....really I'm still in shock as I am writing this. We kind of just ended the conversation after that with me just saying sorry. Like seriously I tried to be as understanding as I could. Perhaps one day when she is planning her own wedding she will understand. WoW!
Originally Posted by DWBride615
I'm sorry that you're in this position and have to deal with this.
How about you tell the single guests that the dates can come if they are willing to pay the $225? Then they can still bring their dates and not make you pay more than you want to. I think if you spoke to them about the price it would cost you for those additional people, that they would understand.
It's your wedding; you shouldn't have to pay extra for people you don't know.