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A Wedding without Bridesmaids or Groomsmen?

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#31 skp1

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    Posted 17 September 2010 - 06:38 PM

    No wedding party for me either.  I always thought it was silly but especially so at a beachy casual environment.  My sister will be my MOH and my fiance's brother will be his best man.  I keep telling my sister she can wear whatever she wants (just something blue-any shade) and she can't believe it. 

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    #32 dpitre

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      Posted 23 September 2010 - 10:33 AM

      We are not having any sort of party, best man, MOH, etc- just a flower girl and ring bearer.  I don't think any one really cares, but I do sometimes wonder if I would have had a party of whether some of my friends from high school would have come (if I would have asked them to be in the wedding).  I'm still relatively close to some, but most of them live in the state in grew up and I've since moved away.  I was kind of shocked how much they disregarded my wedding as option.  I know they don't really travel, but I was definitely shocked at how quick they dismissed the possibility of attending.  Kind of hard when I know that when I go home, I travel all over the state to visit some of them.


      Oh well, my wedding will nice and simple and full of friends and family who want to be there.

      #33 Crystalballl

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        Posted 23 September 2010 - 10:36 AM

        We aren't having a wedding party either.

        My Maid of Honour is my sister, and I bought her dress.  And my Fiance's brother will be his best man and we bought his outfit and that's all we're having. 

        #34 bediva33

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          Posted 23 September 2010 - 06:31 PM

          I'm still on the fence about this but I'm thinking that I don't want a wedding party.

          #35 capt2bspv

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            Posted 23 September 2010 - 06:36 PM

            We are not having a wedding party either. Like everyone else, we didn't want the added drama, or expense to everyone else. The day is supposed to be about us, so by only us being in the wedding, it's DRAMA FREE!!!

            #36 smallvolume123

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              Posted 27 September 2010 - 08:30 PM

              We are not having a wedding party and I am oh-so happy! I think it's good for me.

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              #37 Oscar_Ernie

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                Posted 05 October 2010 - 08:59 AM

                We're not having a bridal party either. With only 22 adults and 5 babies, it just doesn't seem necessary. None of my friends have acted offended by it, which was what I was most worried about. I've been in A LOT of weddings and I was sure they'd be upset for not being asked to be in mine. I have three sisters, a future SIL and many friends I'd feel obligated to ask. It wouldn't be long before it'd only be our parents sitting in the seats! LOL I have tried to include them in various parts of the planning, so that they still feel like they have "the inside scoop"-which has always been my favorite part of being a bridesmaid!


                One friend (the one I was most worried about offending), did announce awhile back that she'd decided that her two-year-old would be the unofficial flower girl. (Ya just gotta know this girl! I can't help but love her.) She was quick to say that she wasn't going to walk down the aisle or anything, she just wanted a reason to dress her up. That just made me laugh. I told her that she could do whatever she wants! She called me the other day asking about the color for her daughter's sash...wanted to make sure she coordinated! LOL I'm thinking I might surprise her the day before the wedding and offer to let her daughter walk down the aisle. Her daughter's pretty shy, so I'm not sure she'd even be able to do it, but I might offer anyway. She's been so wonderful and helpful for not even being an actual bridesmaid!


                The one downside of not having bridesmaids: You gotta do everything on your own! I know I could ask my gals for help (and I've definitely sought out advice from some of them), but I feel bad asking since they're not bridesmaids. Luckily, I love doing crafts, so it hasn't been a huge deal for me, but it's something to consider.

                #38 pineapplebride

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                  Posted 24 October 2010 - 04:27 PM

                  FI and I have also decided not to have a wedding party!

                  Choosing bridesmaids was my only source of wedding stress... so I decided to forgo it and just have no wedding party at all!


                  Our wedding is so small and intimate anyway that we only invited our closest friends and family, and I don't want anyone to feel left out!

                  I think I will give a special gift to my 6 best friends and sister to thank them for being "unofficial bridesmaids".


                  I have a couple questions about logistics of having no wedding party though.. hehe So other brides who are doing this please help!

                  - who is going to carry the rings? Should FI just have them in his pocket and pull them out when its time to exchange rings?

                  - who will hold my bouquet while we exchange vows?

                  - do you still have witnesses sign the certificate? Should we choose witnesses who will be seated during the ceremony to come up sign the document? Will that look awkward?

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                  #39 bride2be31011

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                    Posted 24 October 2010 - 04:49 PM

                    We are only having a Matron of Honor and Best Man.  I didn't want the drama either, but needed me bff there with me for sure. But I agree with what everyone is saying.  I was in a wedding in February and there were 3 BM including myself, and none of us have spoke to the Bride ever since.   (Mainly because she ruined my fiance's proposal and told me about it)

                    #40 6ftht

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                      Posted 24 October 2010 - 05:20 PM

                      No wedding party for me either!  I've been a bridesmaid 6 times and I don't want my friends to have to pay for all the things bridemaid related and have to pay to go to the wedding, trust me they were all grateful!!


                      Pineapple Bride:  I'm going to hand my boquet to my mom, Fi going to keep the rings in his pocket and our best friends will be our witness!

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