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A Wedding without Bridesmaids or Groomsmen?

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We decided not to have a wedding party for a variety of reasons. I was a little worried about how my closest girlfriends would react to this so for the girls who I would have asked to be in my wedding party if we were going that route I wrote them each a little card explaining our reasons and letting them know how important they are to me regardless of not having a "bridesmaid" title and how much it will mean for them to just be there enjoying themselves!

 

They all really loved the gesture and there were no hard feelings.

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I'm not having a bridal party, I think you will be fine either way.  I wouldn't expect any drama since my BMs would have been my sisters (i have 4) and a very good friend. All of my sisters before me did it this way and we had smooth sailing.  No drama at all. I just dont want any because I dont want to be bothered with the extra. Let everyone wear what they want, have all the fun they want and it saves money on flowers!

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We're not having a wedding party either. Glad to see we're not the only ones since my family acts like it's the weirdest thing ever! 

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What a great way to deal with that issue...I'm sure they loved that!
 

Originally Posted by Mrs. LowUFO View Post

We decided not to have a wedding party for a variety of reasons. I was a little worried about how my closest girlfriends would react to this so for the girls who I would have asked to be in my wedding party if we were going that route I wrote them each a little card explaining our reasons and letting them know how important they are to me regardless of not having a "bridesmaid" title and how much it will mean for them to just be there enjoying themselves!

 

They all really loved the gesture and there were no hard feelings.



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I don't think it's weird and I actually think it's quite smart without all the drama that can ensue. With that said, I only a MOH (my cousin) , BM (his cousin), flower girl (my daughter) and ring bearer (my nephew). Then I added a bridesmaid (my brothers gf) and groomsman (my brother). Now DF wants to add my cousin as a groomsman so I have to find another bridesmaid. I wanted a simple wedding party for now drama although I don't think they will cause any, I wanted it small so if they needed help I could help and with 6 people I feel I am stretching it a bit much.

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Wow I"m so lucky, nobody said ANYTHING about me not having Bridesmaids, like seriously, not a thing was brought up it was just an ookay cool kind of thing.  But they know my love for pink so were probabl;y scared about the dresses, hahahaa.  Good luck with the drama!   I never could have imagined people woudl be mad about it.  I've been Bridesmaid and MoH and its NOT worth the hastle!!!! 

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I kinda wish we could have nobody. My fiancé's best friend is kinda flaky and we're now 6 days away from the deadline to book and he still hasn't. I don't know will be best man if he doesn't come, and I've now asked my two best friends to stand up for me, both of whom initially said yes, and then recanted and said they couldn't make it to Cuba. So now, I'm totally stuck on who to have stand up for me.

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