Originally Posted by SarahBen2011
Okay.... I'm trying to make sense of this as well! We're planning to have a friend get ordained and perform our "symbolic" ceremony at Dreams in PV. We'll get the marriage liscense before we go, and then can our officiant sign the papers at our wedding in mexico and drop it off at the county clerk after we get back? Does the court need to know (or will they find out) that we said our vows out of the country???
I'd rather not say our vows before we leave.... so tricky!
We wanted to do something like this as well for our Punta Cana wedding, but the fine print on the court webiste (may be different in Illinois) said that the marriage license has to be obtained in the county where the ceremony is to be performed. Because there are going to be legal documents showing we are out of the country on that date (ie passports) I wouldn't ever want there to be a reason why my marriage license could be invalidated. Once we're married we plan on having joint health insurance, filing taxes together, etc. and I wouldn't want to put anything important like that in jeopardy. I was also thinking of having a friend who isn't attending the wedding perform the ceremony here and then mail the signed license in to the courthouse to arrive the day we have our "symbolic ceremony" in Punta Cana in order to be married the day we're married. However, after speaking to an independent minister here, I found out that the day you sign your documents is the date they put on your marriage license, therefore the date you're officially married. All in all, we're just going to do everything at the courthouse, let the judge know about our symbolic ceremony at our destination wedding, and see if we can just sign papers and make that whole part as uneventful and cost effective as possible. We'll still celebrate our anniversary on the date of our destination wedding. At the end of the day, the marriage certificate is only a piece of paper that no one really looks at anyway (after you've changed your name with the Social Security office, of course) Good luck!