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#41 sesker78

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    Posted 27 December 2010 - 07:35 AM

    This is really good information.  We are marrying a few days before our DW wedding.  However, I was wondering what date we would celebrate our anniversary in years to come.  Wouldn't it be wonderful to celebrate twice



    #42 schmizer

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      Posted 27 December 2010 - 09:20 AM

      We are also planning on marrying before our destination wedding even though it is in Hawaii.  It is just easier not to have to deal with those details when we get there.  Our symbolic ceremony will be our anniversary date...



      #43 islandbride8

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        Posted 27 December 2010 - 10:32 AM

        We are doing the legal thing here first too.  The main reason we're doing it is b/c his parents can't come to the DW and I was feeling selfish, so this way they can be a part it.  They were told not to tell a soul including my FI sister (hopefully they stick to their word).  the only people we are allowing to come are our parents, no siblings or grandparents.  His mom was upset when I told her we weren't exchanging rings or anything, but I'm making the legalities as simple as allowed by law!  lol.  I'm hoping the snowball effect doesn't happen, but I'm bracing myself for it.  I'm at the point though where I'm okay with it if someone gets upset about not being able to come to the courthouse (it's OUR wedding not theirs!).  Also, we are going out of town (about 45 min) for the legal ceremony so that it won't show up in our local paper.  Good luck and don't be afraid to stand your ground.  it's not fair to accomodate others at your expense when it's your wedding!



        #44 Karen&Rene

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          Posted 27 December 2010 - 11:50 AM

          I agree with some of the previous comments about just lying and saying that you changed your mind and you're getting legally married in Mexico.  We already got legally married and we didn't tell anyone and didn't have anyone present.  And it doesn't feel like we're married at all.  I actually can't even recall what we said in our vows, lol.



          #45 diahr

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            Posted 18 January 2011 - 01:56 PM

            Does anyone know how the legal courtroom wedding process works in NJ? NJ does not have JPs.

             

            Thanks!



            #46 katrina

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              Posted 18 January 2011 - 02:00 PM

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              go to your township and apply for a marriage liscence. when you are there you'll receive the name of a judge/officiant. it depends on the size of your township but for us there was only one. we called and talked to him and set up a time. because NJ doesn't have JPs you can get married anywhere, basically. we had him follow us down to a marina by our house and he did it there. but he would have done it in the living room if we asked him to.

               

              hope that helps. this was 2 years ago though so i'm not sure if anything changed.



              #47 Little Princess

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                Posted 18 January 2011 - 02:01 PM

                Can anyone tell me how much is polite to tip the marriage commissioner in BC, Canada? I am hopeless when it comes to tipping etiquette and he's been so sweet and accomodating, I don't want to insult him :)



                #48 diahr

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                  Posted 18 January 2011 - 02:21 PM


                  Thanks so much Katrina! Did the judge/officiant charge you for this? If so, can I ask how much? Thx again
                   

                  Originally Posted by katrina 

                  for nj-

                   

                  go to your township and apply for a marriage liscence. when you are there you'll receive the name of a judge/officiant. it depends on the size of your township but for us there was only one. we called and talked to him and set up a time. because NJ doesn't have JPs you can get married anywhere, basically. we had him follow us down to a marina by our house and he did it there. but he would have done it in the living room if we asked him to.

                   

                  hope that helps. this was 2 years ago though so i'm not sure if anything changed.





                  #49 katrina

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                    Posted 19 January 2011 - 02:14 PM

                    ack, i don't totally remember. i would think yes though. but the good news is if i don't remember, it couldn't have been too expensive!
                     

                    Originally Posted by diahr 


                    Thanks so much Katrina! Did the judge/officiant charge you for this? If so, can I ask how much? Thx again
                     

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                    Originally Posted by katrina 

                    for nj-

                     

                    go to your township and apply for a marriage liscence. when you are there you'll receive the name of a judge/officiant. it depends on the size of your township but for us there was only one. we called and talked to him and set up a time. because NJ doesn't have JPs you can get married anywhere, basically. we had him follow us down to a marina by our house and he did it there. but he would have done it in the living room if we asked him to.

                     

                    hope that helps. this was 2 years ago though so i'm not sure if anything changed.


                     




                    #50 proti007

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                      Posted 19 January 2011 - 04:42 PM

                      We were having a lot of issues with this before as well (first we wanted it to be just us and a JP, then my FFIL suggested us doing it at his church, then my parents were like, why their church and not ours, etc, etc, etc)....SO we've actually decided (with the help of our amazing Dreams WC, Mariana) to legally get married in Cabo on the day of our wedding (what a thought!) while having the symbolic ceremony as well. So we'll have a judge, and a Reverend, and our own vows, and it will be legal, and we'll get everything we want! Who knew?!






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