Legal Wedding Before Destination Wedding... =(

[lucy<3woody]

 "I am a nurse and rather paranoid and do not want a Mexican poking me with a needle"

 

I really hope that you simply worded that wrong and you didn't really mean this. If not, heaven forbid that you ever need medical attention from a doctor of Mexican descent *rolls eyes*

 

Lucy

[sxcT]

We plan on doing the legal thing shortly before we head down to Mexico.  Not sure who will be there but I do not plan on telling anyone besides mom and sis. 

 

For those who already did this...I was told you still sign a paper during the ceremony.  Is that true?  Does it depend on the country, resort, something else?  What does the paper say?

[helen9]

i would say its for immediate family/friends only. this is one of the reasons why we chose to have it in a location where a legal wedding wouldn't be more work/travel etc. plus i'm lazy and couldn't be bothered organising two events.

[islandbride8]

I'm also a nurse and it's prejudice to think that because of someones nationality they cannot stick you with a needle!  It's not rocket science!  Such a shame and I for one do not want someone as judgemental as you to poke anyone with a needle!
 

Originally Posted by lucy<3woody 

 "I am a nurse and rather paranoid and do not want a Mexican poking me with a needle"

 

I really hope that you simply worded that wrong and you didn't really mean this. If not, heaven forbid that you ever need medical attention from a doctor of Mexican descent *rolls eyes*

 

Lucy

[JLR1726]

have you ever thought about getting married after you come back? its always an option.

i too am getting married before and only or BM and MOH are coming.

[Lindslou]

We decided to get married before we left only to save on time and costs.  We have not told anyone and will ask our witnesses if they can meet us out for lunch that day and surprise them with our legal ceremony.  I too don't want it to take away from our DW.  The lady marrying us here allows us and 2 witnesses, any other people we have to pay.  Stick to your plans and hopefully people will respect that it is your wedding and these are your wishes

[shelbs97]

We are calling my brother and his girlfriend (both are in our bridal party) to meet us for dinner - and their friend is able to legally marry us so we'll have him meet us there, we'll sign the papers, and it's done! I don't even want my parents knowing when it happened because our "real" date is our Cancun wedding.
I think a lot of people get married before their DW because I know at my resort in Cancun, it's required that I have a marriage certificate for the wedding to take place. 
 

[fmichelle]

For us, it's simply a matter of time and money. We figured out the cost of translating all our docs, getting something called an apostle, time lost not having our marriage legal in this country (as soon as you are married, car insurance goes down, we can combine our health insurance, another deduction on taxes, etc) and then money spent to translate back to English it was at least $500.  I'd rather spend that money elsewhere and not stress.  Our symbolic ceremony will be very special.  I'm writing it myself and a close friend of our is performing the ceremony. At felt badly about it at first, but like everyone else, we're not making any kind of deal out of the paperwork, it's just paperwork.

[Avens]

We were a little ahead of the game in booking our wedding, so we decided we're going to get married on the same day, just a year ahead of time.  I just booked the marriage commisioner. Now we just need to decide if we surprise a few friends to be our witnesses or ask her to provide them.

 

It will be hard to keep a secret for a year, but as said earlier - its just a piece of paper and the real ceremony will be with all our family and friends.

[Little Princess]

Good luck keeping it as a secret for a year We're eloping in a couple of months and we've been thinking about doing that for a little while, it's driving me crazy not telling anyone what we're planning! Everytime anyone asks our plans it's just "Oh we haven't decided, we'll see", I can't imagine keeping something like that quiet for a year!! I'm hoping to do a symbolic wedding/renewal of vows at a later date, and I'd love to do it on an anniversary, as that date will be so special So I totally see why you're doing that