My sister got married in April and I was MOH. I think she chose me out of obligation to my mom, we are the only two children in our family.
Every time I tried to call her to help her, she never returned my calls and it was really annoying.
We used to be close, until she met her now husband. Now she is pretty much a stranger to our whole family.
I don't even feel like I know her, so why would I want her to be my MOH? She never even thanked me for being her MOH, never sent us a thank you for the gift and never gave anyone in the bridal party a gift (not too concerned about that, but it is pretty much expected that you do that).
I know most of planning will be done by myself and my fiancee, but I want a MOH who will actually be there for me. Not one who took six days to congratulate her one and only sister on her engagement, despite me calling her four days in a row and leaving multiple voicemails.
I have someone else in mind, who I consider more of a sister. She has been a part of our family my whole life. She was my babysitter and I consider her to be my best friend. She was just as excited as I was about getting engaged.
At first, my mom wanted me to have my sister because she didn't want to start world war 3. But now, she is getting fed up with me sister and is at the point where she doesn't care.
Should I just hold out on asking anyone?
We aren't getting married until late 2011 early 2012 anyway, so it is not like we are in a rush.
My other fear, with the way my brother in law talks, is that she will be pregnant or have just had a baby around the time we get married anyway.
Not sure what to do ... anyone been in this situation before?