Need Advice about FMIL situation

[Mel]

Thanks ladies. I know FI has already talked to FMIL about the situation and she swears she will do nothing and she is over it but I don't believe her at all. She still makes comments about new wife that shows she is still being immature about it. I will make sure we talk to both of them again, and I think you ladies are right. It is my wedding day and I will take who I want and forget the feelings. At least FMIL doesn't live next store...if fact half way across the country! I'll have to come up with a job for her.

[jajajaja]

Well I see you already talked to her....that was my suggestion. The big point is this will probably not be the last time the 2 ladies have to be in the same room together and playing a big shuffle board game may be impossible every time. I think a wedding is a very good excuse for people to put on a happy face and fake their way through it.

 

Trust me, I do know what you are going through. My dad, who I am not very close with, stormed out of my college graduation party because he was angry that my stepfather was acting as "dad," even though he had been for 15 years. For my wedding, I decided not to even invite my dad because I did not want to deal with the mess....and then be trapped in a foreign country for days when drama breaks out. No thank you.

 

I know this isn't an option for you, but I think it would be best to get ahold of the situation before you see it again. I would hope your FMIL would be a big enough person to put her personal issues aside for her children. I would even say that last sentence. Let her know how selfish she would be.

[jajajaja]

Plus correct me if I'm wrong there is always the captain's closet right?

[Mel]

Very true! Maybe I'll threaten to feed her to the sharks (I did see one at Las Marietas when I was scuba diving...but that's on the other side of PV!) I just hope that she isn't stupid when she is drunk. She might be ok while not drunk (hope, pray, cross fingers) but when she is I don't know what to expect.

[MikkiStreak]

Is there any way to put them on separate boat rides without having to choose which one to take with you? Kind of like, you ride early with your bridal party, then a second boat ride for half the guests and a third ride for the remaining guests? (without having a huge additional expense for doing an extra boat ride)...

 

I was going to say also, I know Ann had a great experience with the WC for Las Celatas. If you felt comfortable talking to them, maybe they would have suggestions for how to deal with transportation.

 

Worst case scenario--- Stick a sign on the boat to greet them that says "Keep to your own corners. I have a secret agent on this boat who will throw one of you overboard if you come within 10 feet of each other!"

[jajajaja]

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Originally Posted by Mel Very true! Maybe I'll threaten to feed her to the sharks (I did see one at Las Marietas when I was scuba diving...but that's on the other side of PV!) I just hope that she isn't stupid when she is drunk. She might be ok while not drunk (hope, pray, cross fingers) but when she is I don't know what to expect.

Ah crap ALCOHOL! And there are 7 hrs of unlimited flowing alcohol. I say you budget in some money for some bouncers.

[starchild]

Different boats are virtually impossible, but if they must ride on the same boat, a few words to the crew will at least help. Your WC will be at Las Caletas all day so she can't physically break anything up that starts but the crew is good in an emergency...lol

 

IDEA, give everyone dramamine but have them give her a sugar pill. She'll hopefully fall ill and that guarantees at least 40 minutes of her not being able to start shit!!!

 

Seriously, I also say bring the one you favor over early with you guys, telling the other one that you can't risk ruining the harmony of the boat ride. Or you can make up an excuse as to why you need her on the boat, or why you need the other one there early - like maybe to help with hair/makeup/last minute sewing in case something rips? lol

[JaimeLynne]

I say bring FFIL's wife with you and then give FMIL an "extra special" task to do. Explain to her what a HUGE help it would be to you. It's amazing how moms personalities can change when they feel needed and wanted.

[LCBride2007]

if you can't/don't want to take my earlier suggestion (and others, to take new wife with you on the boat early, and give FMIL an "important" job) you could enlist the help of Brad, the minister, he seems like a good guy and big enough to break up a cat-fight!

[tvt]

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Originally Posted by akh eek. that was going to be my first suggestion was to have one of them come over early with you to hang out and get ready. can you still have the new wife come over early? tell FMIL that you really need her to hang back and make sure all goes well on that make - make it seem like you really need her there, becuase you don't trust anyone else or something.

this is what i was thinking too. give FMIL a job so she feels you really need her on the boat with all of the other guests.