Help!! Dad Vent...

[Ms.H]

So my dad called me the other night and said he will be making his own travel arrangements instead of being part of our group because he can save himself $150.00. Our group is leaving on a saturday and if he leaves friday night he will get a cheaper rate. I'm super unimpressed by this because I know its his girlfriend who's being cheap, and because he just spent 10 grand on an antique car that he wants to fix up. For my other sisters weddings, which were not destinations, he had to rent a tux and a luxury car to transport the bride to and bride and groom from the ceremony. He does not have to do either of those things for me. What also bugs me is the fact that because of this FI and I are going to miss out on a $500 travel credit from signature vacations and will will be short two guests for us to travel free .

 

Any advice? Am I being unreasonalbe?

TIA

[hockeymom97]

I don't think you're being unreasonable, but is your dad aware of the impact any of this has on your reservation? Maybe if you just tried talking to him and explained that it's easier on everyone if you book as a group, he would understand? Let him know how this impacts your reservation and pricing. I mean if he isn't aware of this, he just sees that they get to fly in a day earlier and it's $150 bucks cheaper. I might take that deal as well if I wasn't aware of any impact to you.

[clgriffi7]

Another option: if he saves $150 by booking by himself, you could offer to pay that difference to him as it will save you $500 + a free room. So it would be financially worth it for you to make that offer. That way you are telling your Dad the benefits to you without asking him to pay more. And HOPEFULLY your Dad will tell you to just forget the $150. Either way you come out on top and you haven't had to be confrontational with your Dad. Worth a shot?

 

Courtney

[Ms.H]

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Originally Posted by clgriffi7 Another option: if he saves $150 by booking by himself, you could offer to pay that difference to him as it will save you $500 + a free room. So it would be financially worth it for you to make that offer. That way you are telling your Dad the benefits to you without asking him to pay more. And HOPEFULLY your Dad will tell you to just forget the $150. Either way you come out on top and you haven't had to be confrontational with your Dad. Worth a shot? Courtney

This is exactly what I was thinking of doing but definietly wanted the opinions of others. Thanks Courtney!

[Cinnamon-Girl]

I think Courtney's suggestion is great, that's along the lines of my thoughts as well. Hopefully a brief conversation will solve the issue for everyone!

 

Also...is there any other possible reason he may not want to travel as a group? You mentioned his girlfriend...perhaps they don't feel comfortable traveling with the rest of the group due to family dynamics? Seems a stretch, but worth considering.

 

I hope it all works out and you have a lovely wedding!

 

CG

[Erika J]

I think Courtney suggestion is a great one if they are willing.

 

Even if it doesnt work out, I think you should still be increidibly greatful he is coming, so many brides would give anything for their fathers and families to even be able to attend the wedding.

[starchild]

Well $150 isn't a great savings so it's seems silly, but then again you can't tell people what to do with their money. Maybe that $150 is a lot to him since he just spent $10k and he may have been in a different financial position at the time of your sisters' weddings.

 

If I'm being honest I'd say you are leaning toward unreasonable. I agree with Erika about being grateful that he is coming when so many people have fathers who don't want to go, are deceased, etc.

 

Courtney has a good idea and if your dad is game then go for it. If not, let him do his thing. Who cares how he gets there or what money it saves you, kwim? At the end of the day him being there is more important than a $500 credit

[TheFutureWagners]

God I HATE the way families are about these DW's. It really blows my mind how families change when the wedding planning comes in.

[Tissey]

I'd just offer to pay the $150 for him if it will be that big of a savings to you. I'm sure he'd understand and probably wouldn't even take the money.

If that doesn't work I'd start recruiting real hard to find 2 more people to go!

[kelly1214]

I agree with starchild. You should just be happy your father can come. Do you know how many brides don't have fathers that are around anymore?

 

Maybe your father doesn't want to travel with everyone. Travelling in large groups suck. It is his vacation too- if he wants to get there a night early, it's his choice. Just be happy that he will meet you down there.