*Heavy Sigh* Vent -- Bummed about turn out for my AHR :(

[KittenHeart]

Aww Christie!! Well, don't get me started on your sister... a lot of us know how she is so we're gonna move right over her because there's sometimes no understanding her actions.

 

Also, people are strange, everyone feels entitled to a piece of your wedding and slighted when they don't get the specific piece they want then bitter at some point. I've had one of the most turbulent years regarding my wedding celebrations it's insane.

 

All you have to realize and know is that those 50 something replies that are attending are people that LOVE you and are happy for you. Screw everyone else, focus on them and know these are truly people that support you.

 

Just try and shake it off and know that you are going to have the BEST time at your AHR, it's so much more carefree and fun, I guarantee you won't miss anyone who's not there. It's going to be amazing hun!!! XOXO

[jajajaja]

Wow- I'm really sad for you but since a lot of people suck, I'm not surprised. It seems like more and more people are becoming really self involved and you can never get people to either commit to something because they are waiting for a better invite to something else or are incredibily flaky. It's the world we live in I suppose.

 

As for your sister- I literally laughed out loud at her excuse. Beyond retarded. Something is going on there because who can really say something like that with such a straight face. News flash- 13yr olds don't give a shit if grown ups are at their party. They'd rather it be all their friends. That's the time in your life when the grown ups are annoying. LOL

 

I'm really sorry though. Hopefully more people show and didn't RSVP because we ALL know- RSVPing is realllllly difficult and it's way too much to ask people to do.

[jajajaja]

Oh and Amy brought the sunshine in her comment so yes- she's right. Read hers because mines too bitter this morning. LOL I need more coffee.

[latinive]

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Originally Posted by islandbride317 No girl, I'm not kidding you (she ACTUALLY said those things to me about the importance of the 13th b-day party via emails!) This is all the real-deal on how my sister behaves, and then she has the audacity, the GAUL to call ME self-absorbed and self-centered, too! HA! You can't make this stuff up, I tell you.... And to answer your question, she is 2 years older than me, and I think you called it right on the jealousy thing, but I'm not even going to launch into that drama right now! And I LOVE that YOUR sister is soooo there for you, newborn baby and all -- if anyone is jealous here, it's me that you have that type of unconditionally supportive, touching relationship with your sister! Lucky girl! Oh, and although it may seem a little desperate, I am planning to contact those that we haven't received their reply yet over the course of the next week before I have to turn in my final numbers to the venue on 7/29, so I am hoping there are a few more stragglers that will be coming after all, too! And if not, SCREW EM, right?! I'll just be like, "Hey, where's my drink?" all stumbling around, and screaming, "And turn up that damn 'Funky Chicken' already!" LOL!

Hey. I'm sorry you are so frustrated by your sister. I understand your pain. I recently got engaged on our cruise May 9th and when we returned 8 days later, we shared the news with everyone. To this day, I have not gotten a congratulations or I'm so happy for you from my younger sister. Everyone knows that we are planning on having a DW and even after many attempts to reach out to her. I've been shut down. I have come to accept that she might not be a part of it and while it still bothers me, it's okay. So I hope that everything works out for you. Enjoy yourself regardless.

[miss_delerium]

Ugh...I feel your sister pain. I've had more drama from my sister than I can handle anymore! And I know it sucks, because she's your SISTER and you want her to be happy for you on your wedding and involved. And a 13-yr olds B-day party?? Are you KIDDING me?!??!

 

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Originally Posted by Michelle-2 I wanted to plan the AHR as soon after our trip as we can, basically because I don't want too much time to go by then people tend to "loose that thunder" of excitement of a just married couple.

This is what I was worried about too. We're getting married in January, and I was thinking of waiting until spring/summer to have a BBQ, since there will be snow everywhere when we get back, but then I started worrying that no one will care 5 months after we get back from Mexico. But I can't afford to have a GRAND AHR. I just wanted a low-key get together. Why do I have to live somewhere that there's snow until May!? ARG!

[islandbride317]

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Originally Posted by KittenHeart Aww Christie!! Well, don't get me started on your sister... a lot of us know how she is so we're gonna move right over her because there's sometimes no understanding her actions. Also, people are strange, everyone feels entitled to a piece of your wedding and slighted when they don't get the specific piece they want then bitter at some point. I've had one of the most turbulent years regarding my wedding celebrations it's insane. All you have to realize and know is that those 50 something replies that are attending are people that LOVE you and are happy for you. Screw everyone else, focus on them and know these are truly people that support you. Just try and shake it off and know that you are going to have the BEST time at your AHR, it's so much more carefree and fun, I guarantee you won't miss anyone who's not there. It's going to be amazing hun!!! XOXO

Thank you, babygirl.....as always, you're right and you KNOW I love you for putting things into perspective for me! (And regarding my sister, you're right again -- she is, well, an a$$, and not even worth trying to understand, so I shouldn't even waste my time there, either!)

* I especially appreciate how insightful your comment was about people feeling entitled to take some type of ownership of your wedding and ultimately bitter no matter what you do -- I feel ya, honey! It's like they wish you well to your face and then secretly want to see everything fall apart around you for one twisted reason or another! Sorry, there I go being cynical again... *

Anyway, I really do hate to complain about this, when I know there are people with ACTUAL "real" problems out there in the world, but I was just really looking forward to the AHR, since my reception in Jamaica was (by choice) just the 30 minute, cheapie "cocktail and cold hors d' oeuvres" thing with my 10 guests, you know?

And I know I've been focusing on who's NOT going to be there, but I truly am grateful for those that will be coming to share the day with us...so I'm going to try to look at it from a "glass/guest list is half full" perspective instead of focusing on those that are blowing us off!

Massive HUGS, AMY! I *heart* you for always knowing just what to say to cheer me up or help me get my head back on straight...

P.S. I love the Elvis cupcakes in your siggy, too! too adorable!

[KittenHeart]

Rachel - HAHA! Thanks girl, I was blessed with 2 coffee's today, one from husband and one from boss!

 

Christie - Anytime girl!! Sometime's, esp wedding/AHR planning we get into a slump and need to vent, I've been there too, we all have so I'm happy that I can cheer you up at least one iota!

 

Rachel is right though, people suck, I never knew how much they sucked until planning my wedding, that's for sure.

 

You'll see, when you come back on here raving on how amazing it was and how much fun you had, you'll forget what you were upset about in the first place! HUGS! XOXO

[islandbride317]

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Originally Posted by *Rachel* Wow- I'm really sad for you but since a lot of people suck, I'm not surprised. It seems like more and more people are becoming really self involved and you can never get people to either commit to something because they are waiting for a better invite to something else or are incredibily flaky. It's the world we live in I suppose. As for your sister- I literally laughed out loud at her excuse. Beyond retarded. Something is going on there because who can really say something like that with such a straight face. News flash- 13yr olds don't give a shit if grown ups are at their party. They'd rather it be all their friends. That's the time in your life when the grown ups are annoying. LOL I'm really sorry though. Hopefully more people show and didn't RSVP because we ALL know- RSVPing is realllllly difficult and it's way too much to ask people to do.

All I have to say is you're AWESOME, Rachel!

I appreciate that you 'tell it like it is" girl, so don't ever apoligize for being fabulous you! And in my day-to-day dealings with people, I tend to use sarcasm as a tool to drive a point home myself, so go ahead, miss lady!

And you know what, that is an excellent point about how everybody is always so willing to "better deal" on you -- I sent out STDs in November of last year so that I could call 'dibs' on the day, so I naively assumed that most people would feel a sense of duty to actually SAVE THAT DATE to attend our AHR -- bwahahah! Yeah, right!

Oh and real quick about my sister, she feeds off of the energy of chaos, so even if there wasn't this ridiculous birthday party, she would have found another "must attend" event for that day to prove to me that she matters to lots of other people, and by not attending the whole time, it'd be her way to humble me/show me that "I'm not as important as I think I am".

And yes, the once-in-a-lifetime, epic milestone, becoming-a-teenager birthday excuse had me so angry I could spit, but yet only a matter of months ago, her a$$hole husband got loaded drunk and ruined his nephew Kyle's BIG 1-3 so badly they had to have a do-over party?! I could just CHOKE on the irony! She was none-too-please when I pointed that out...but she should be aware of her own blinding hypocrisy, yeah?!

Anyway, thanks for 100% catching what I'm throwing out here...you're a straight-talk rockstar, Rach!

[jajajaja]

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Originally Posted by islandbride317 Anyway, thanks for 100% catching what I'm throwing out here...you're straight-talk rockstar, Rach!

I'm picking up what your puting down. LOL

I know- I'm pretty straight to the point and blunt. My DH always tries to tell me that I could soften the blow a bit and I try to!

Anyways- your party will still rock and you will have 50 guests there that WANT to be there. So drink til it's fun. That's my life motto!

[Brandy]

Big HUG for you!!!

I feel your pain, I know how that would make me feel, to be honest I dont really want to even have a reception at home but I felt it would be important to have for those who could not make it for money or travel reasons. I feel really bad for those who cant make it and they have told me they will def be at the reception back home and I would be totally pi**ed if those people didnt even come, so I can see where your coming from completely!! Hang in there hopefully it will turn out great! Have you called those who have not returned their RSVPs alot of people dont send them back and just show up, and a lot of people who say no sometimes show up too!