To Facebook or not to Facebook...

[MrsJones2Be]

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Originally Posted by pinayflava i have been engaged since last October 2009 and the first thing i wanted to do was change my status on fb - but then i thought about it - there are some people i didn't want knowing etc... so i still haven't changed it but everyone that i did want to know (who were on fb) knows either through phone call or person

I have been engaged since February of this year and I still have not changed my status on Facebook. The people that I wanted to know, do know, but I don't want everyone in my business like that!

[lsjhik]

I honestly can't even remember....Probably some knew some didn't.

 

They should just be happy for you!

[Canadiansandy]

I waited about a day before posting the news/changing my relationship status on FB. I called my best friend and parents, and sent an email to my closest friends (who live all over the place). Only after that did I post it. I'm not super close with my aunts and uncles so I let my parents & FB pass on the news! No one seemed to mind

[Dana2]

We called our parents and siblings and then posted on facebook the same night. I think it's a great way to let people know. We're not big phone-talkers so it would be a little weird for us to call up our friends and tell them .

[lisa203]

I think I updated my status the day after. 1,274,328 notifications later, I'm glad I did because a lot of people that I would have forgotten to tell reached out and wished us well.

[bediva33]

I changed it that next day. But I have the notification turned off for relationship status so it didn't pop up in my newsfeed or anything. People only saw it if they happened to visit my page.

[DWBride615]

This actually reminds of what I see going on with some celebrities...

You know, like when a parent of an actor/singer/etc. doesn't find out about their child's engagement until they see it in the tabloids/media and they get really upset about it. I don't know, for some reason it reminded me of that even though it's a different situation. You're telling your family & friends and the media would tell the whole world. Anyway, back to the topic at hand..

 

It is the time of technology, so I don't blame you for being excited and updating your status right away. However, I understand why they would be upset. They are the people closest to you and putting yourself in their shoes, I think you would feel that you should've been told first rather than the same time with everyone else. I don't have FB (idk never got into it that one particularly even though I'm all about technology), so I just told the people closest to me, then announced it to everyone else after.

[angelov321]

I called my parents right away, but they already knew everything anyways. Then I called my closest friends and family (close cousin, aunt and a few friends). Right after that I immediately announced it on facebook and changed my status. I was just soo happy and excited that I wanted the world to know! But in my situation, many of my other family members are all on FB so they understood that I couldnt call them all, but were still happy to be able to hear the news.

[hunniebee724]

I called my parents & brother (but they already knew he was going to propose) and then we both text all of our friends & family. After that we announced it on facebook....most of my aunts, uncles & cousins are on facebook so we announce pretty much everything on there anyway (engagements, pregnancies, etc).

[hunniebee724]

Oh, and my grandparents & older relatives found out from whichever family member called them first to tell them...that's just how my family works lol.