I actually had a little break down the other day in regards to this. I know it's expensive and it's a time commitment... and we're not inviting kids, but when we announced our engagement and location (at the same time) last August so many of our friends and family were excited and "DEFINITELY going". We paid the extra money for the 50+ person wedding and signed the contract binding us to that number (we could have done 49 or less for much cheaper). We're now 5 months from our wedding and 1/2 of our guest have told our friends (not us) that they won't be attending.
3 couples are not going bc they're pregnant- I could understand if it was bc they're too far along, but it's not. The first one to get pregnant told the other moms-to-be that water/food in Mexico is dangerous to a fetus and now they're to scared to go.
2 couples got engaged after us and decided they want to do destination weddings also, and now they can't afford to go to ours.
1. I wish they'd tell us and not our friends first- it's hurtful to hear it second hand.
2. I wish they would have looked into the commitment before giving the verbal commitment and causing us to make the binding contractual commitment.
I'm trying to stay positive and not care.... but the money we've commited to on their behalf couldn've been spent elsewhere. On top of all of that, one of my very good friends said she heard about 12 beheadings in Alcupulco and now she's scared to go and not excited. Why would she tell me that? Does she think I can change the location now? Does she think I want to hear she doesn't really want to be there anymore? We're getting married in Cabo, not Alcupulco! There hasn't been a single killing in Cabo! It's so frustrating and I'm scared she's going to spread fear like the prego lady did.
I'm glad this is par for the course and I think most of you are right, the people that want to be there will get there, and they're the important people. The day is about my fiance and me and our family is definitely there and already booked, so are our BFF. At the end of the day.... all we've wasted is some money, but learned who are real and reliable friends are.