My FH is ruining my dream wedding ... how do I compromise?
Posted 09 July 2010 - 08:22 PM
Posted 09 July 2010 - 08:46 PM
Posted 09 July 2010 - 09:26 PM
Posted 09 July 2010 - 11:18 PM
You just have to remember that wedding talk isn't part of a normal guy's existence. They don't get how expensive photography, catering, wedding venue, attire, etc is. Especially anything "wedding" related. We get it, but most of them don't. Just show him what you know...
Posted 09 July 2010 - 11:50 PM
| Originally Posted by sungoddess_08 |
Unfortunately the name of your post puts a very negative spin on the situation - you have to remember that it's both of your wedding and his opinions should not result in "ruining" the day. You should sit down and write the things that are most important to both of you and then figure out a way to do it. We had all the traditions you mentioned and we still had an amazing simple, low key wedding. There are many ways to make it work, but I think you need to alter your "dream" wedding to meet both of your needs.
It's not your dream wedding, it should reflect both of your dreams. If your dreams don't match up then you have to work it out but it doesn't mean you get to outright win, you know?
If the details are causing this much conflict maybe you should tone it down a bit. Too many otherwise happy relationships are hurt by the drama that a bride with a dream creates.
Not saying you shouldn't get some of the things that are important to you, but don't lose sight of the feelings of the man you love enough to want to marry.
| Originally Posted by *Rachel* |
And sorry Mrs. Williams- his cousin's wedding gets a big thumbs down. Bride and groom go separate ways after ceremony?? So freaking bizarre that I can't even wrap my mind around it. If the dudes wanna play bball- do it BEFORE the wedding while the ladies are getting ready for 3 hours! Geesh.
Posted 10 July 2010 - 12:06 AM
@ Starchild, I quite understand that the wedding day is about both of us and it's about compromising; however, I'm finding it very difficult to find the happy medium and show him that we both can get what we want. Currently, his option is to have a wedding more like his cousins, and in 10 years, give me the wedding of my dreams. I want more of the dream now and NEVER do I want his cousin's wedding.
Posted 10 July 2010 - 12:19 AM
Posted 10 July 2010 - 12:37 AM
But I do agree that the thread title and some of the other statements is a little harsh, but I'm assuming your just feisty about your man being difficult. When you guys have a talk be sure to use "we" language etc. If you come out with the "my wedding" stuff, etc you might not have as of a cooperating FI to talk with, KWIM?
Posted 10 July 2010 - 12:53 AM
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