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Who is walking you down the aisle? Is it ok to choose no one?

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#21 richarsd

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    Posted 03 July 2010 - 10:56 PM

    Hi Wagnergirls. I know what a dilemma this can be for some of us. Like you, I don't have the closest relationship with my Dad but we still get along and care about each other and all that but it's distant. I am way closer to my Mom. Honestly, if anyone was going to have the honour of walking me down the aisle, it should be her. However, I would never want to offend my Dad but just having Mom do it; I think he'd be quite hurt. I don't really like the idea of being "given away" anyway so I'd much prefer to just walk by myself. However, my Mom really wants to walk with me down the aisle. Therefore, so that my Dad nor my Mom are offended (it's partly their day too, after all), I'm letting them both walk me down the aisle. But if you can get away with just walking by yourself, I'd say go for it!

    #22 tris

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      Posted 04 July 2010 - 01:54 AM

      My grandfather is walking me down the aisle.

      He's my hero and has been a constant father figure in my life where my real Dad has often fallen short. He also had an awful stroke 5 years ago and recovered against all odds. Although he's half paralyzed, he can still walk short distances with a brace and someone for him to lean on (ie. me).


      If it weren't for my grandpa I'd be walking solo :)
      Married my best friend 04/28/11 at the Gran Bahia Principe Runaway Bay

      #23 mlabbe

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        Posted 04 July 2010 - 03:00 AM

        I decided to walk myself down the isle. It felt better that way. I never brought up the subject, neither did he, before the wedding. We had also not been the closest, so I think he just understood. I never felt that he took it personally or anything.

        This is your day, do what feels right and makes you happy!

        #24 Sita&Nate

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          Posted 04 July 2010 - 03:25 PM

          I was planning to walk myself down as well, but my dad ended up walking down the aisle with me. I am glad we did this because I was so nervous, and my dad reminded me to slow down (apparently I was speed walking) and breathe....

          #25 greysgirl

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            Posted 04 July 2010 - 04:10 PM

            My daddy passed away 2 years ago this summer and I will most likely walk myself down the aisle. I do have an older brother whom I'm guessing would like to take our dad's "place" in that role of "giving me away", so I may do that too. I don't feel strongly about either way really.

            The beauty of a DW is that YOU get to decide if you want to be solo down that aisle or not. I say go with your gut:) Best of luck!

            #26 MsSmithtobe

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              Posted 04 July 2010 - 04:32 PM

              I'm walking myself down the aisle, and I plan to go very slowly lol. ALL EYES ON ME.

              #27 wagnergirls

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                Posted 06 July 2010 - 08:36 AM

                Thank you everyone for replying! I definitely feel more comfortable now with my decision to walk myself down the aisle! Like mlabbe, I think he will just sort of "understand," without any discussion about it before the wedding. He asked me what he should wear to the wedding, and I told him whatever makes him comfortable since it will be a hot, beach wedding. I also really liked the idea that some of you brought up where the groom meets the bride half way. that sounds so romantic and symbolic! I have never seen it done in real life, but I have talked to my fiance about it and this is what we are going to do! I also like the idea of "all eyes on me." :) because i am the type of person who is rarely the center of attention, it will feel nice on my wedding day. Thank you everyone for all of your help!!

                #28 teshy1

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                  Posted 06 July 2010 - 01:10 PM

                  Hi Wagnergirls....I'd say go with what will make you the most comfortable on your big day. There is a lot of pressure on us brides to do what we think people want or what they expect, but it is your day, so do it the way you want.
                  Best of luck!

                  #29 Nan

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                    Posted 06 July 2010 - 03:19 PM

                    That´s a tough decision! I would go with whatever makes you feel good now and won´t make you regret it in the future!!
                    Nan and Erik forever!!!

                    #30 Mrsstivers

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                      Posted 06 July 2010 - 06:09 PM

                      My six year old daughter is walking me down the aisle. My dad is not coming to my wedding since he doesn't like to fly (Personally I say suck it up and drink a few if ya have to). But my daughter is my whole world and I can't think of anyone better to have the honor.
                      The Future Mrs. Stivers

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