Who is walking you down the aisle? Is it ok to choose no one?

[Teira1031]

The best thing about a DW is there are no rules! its your day and you get to do it however you want !

[Dilara]

well said, Teira1031!

[bklynbridetobe]

My dad passed many years ago, I don't really have anyone that I see as a "father" figure in my life so I at this time I think it will just be me, myself and I. I do like the idea of my fiance meeting me half way down the aisle.

[SonyaR]

My dad passed away many years ago as well and I'm going to have my mom walk me down the aisle. Is that an option for you?

[vermontwedding]

It's a great pleasure for me to walk with my dad. Even with that kind of relationship stil he is your dad. He may not let you see that he was offended but deep inside he is.

[Susan'n'Dean]

Well i know its traditional to walk down the isle with your dad, but im not sure what i am going to do yet. As there is only 6 of us at my wedding i think it seems a little over the top to do the whole walk down the isle with father thing. However i am undecided and not put much thought into it yet. I am going to arrive there and see what the WC suggests in the rehearsal. Although i get on with my dad, we are not really close and show our feelings.....more like a father son type relationship where we both just take the pee out of one another, maybe its cos ive got 2 brothers and im the only girl i dont know. Therefore it may feel weird for us to do the whole link arms and walk down the isle together thing.

[lucy<3woody]

Ugh. I'm NOT having my dad walk me down the aisle. I cringe at the thought. He is technically my step father who adopted me at 4 yrs old, and he was less than a good father. We have very little relationship, it would be easier for me if only mom came to the DW and he didn't!  I will NOT be doing any sort of a father- daughter dance either!

 

It really depends on who can make it to the DW. If both my parents are there I will have it go like this:

Everyone is seated and music starts.

Grandpa and Gma walk up (I am VERY close with them) and are seated in the front row.

Mom and Dad walk up and are seated.

FILaws Walk up and are seated.

FH and I meet in the middle, behind the chairs, and walk up together.

 

However, if my dad doesn't come and my mom does, I may consider having her walk me, and having FH waiting at the altar for me. Time will tell!!

 

I don't know if I will even attempt to tell my dad that I don't want him to walk me, rather, I will just hand out instructions/itinerary and he will find out that way. He really shouldn't be suprised by my decision, but is one who likes to put up big appearances. Thats why I feel having the parents walking up together would be a good substitue. That way I might avoid having anyone ask why he didn't walk me. If they do, I will say 'Well, who would have walked with my mom if he had walked with me?'

 

Sorry, this got long!!!

[Sjnovot]

If you don't want him to then you don't have to walk with him.  Just explain to him your choice so he realizes its what you want.

[gonzaloNunez]

All opinions are valid. But have you tried talking to him? Perhaps he would feel honored by the request and your relationship can be renewed. But at the end of the day do what makes you happier. It's your day.

[magirl]

I'm a bit conflicted on this, I kinda feel like I'm not a little girl to be "given away" I"m freaking 33 and paying for this! But I know my dad would be disappointed.

 

soooo I'm thinking I might want my FI and I to walk down the aisle together. Maybe have my mom and dad come in together, then his mom(no dad) , then us. It seems more appropriate at this stage in our lives.