Leave as guest or make a bridesmaid?
Posted 21 June 2010 - 12:39 PM
We originally were planning a traditional wedding at home. My FI and I each asked 5 people to be in the wedding, plus one mutual friend, who would be the reader. After ditching the traditional plan and changing to a DW, we only invited family and those who were to be in the wedding party, knowing that the family would not come (mostly financial reasons - having an AHR for them instead), and only a handful of the wedding party would come. That being said, up until recent, only the MOH and the reader were going. My FI was going to make the reader his BM. But now, we just found out - his original BM is going to Jamaica with his wife. So, my "reader" is now just a groomsman, I guess, because he still feels he is part of the wedding party, and he is!
Now, with the BM coming, what am I to do with his wife? She was not in the wedding party (I have only known her for a short while), but since they are only 6 of us in total, and only she is not a "part" of the wedding, should I ask her to be a bridesmaid? I don't know her very well, but I don't want her feeling left out - she will be the only person in the "audience." But I also don't want her feeling like she has to buy a "bridesmaid" dress (yes, I am anal and would want her to match my colors!), if that would put her on the spot.
What should I do?
Posted 21 June 2010 - 12:47 PM
Posted 21 June 2010 - 02:15 PM
Posted 21 June 2010 - 02:45 PM
| Originally Posted by MDLady |
Definitely not. Only have someone as a BM if they are truly an important part of your life. Are you sure that it will be just the 6 of you?? If it turns out that way, I could see why you would think that she would be uncomfortable. But I'm sure she understands as well that you guys just met recently and does not in any way expect to be a bridesmaid!
Posted 21 June 2010 - 03:18 PM
Posted 21 June 2010 - 03:48 PM
Posted 25 July 2010 - 11:19 AM
Posted 28 July 2010 - 01:50 PM
Hmm I understand where you're coming from, and to be honest seeing as the entire wedding isn't traditional why should the roles stay traditionally allocated?
If I was in your shoes I personally would probably ask her. Although she may not expect to have a role in the wedding, she will probably feel like a spare part being the only person in the audience.
Because I haven't got that many guests attending I've decided not to allocate roles to any body apart from my Dad giving me away and my fiance is having a best man. I didn't want every one to have a role cos then there wouldn't be an audience, I'd feel like we were all 'performing' for nothing if that makes sense?x
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