I'm just kind of like, whatever

[MSBRANDI]

Today I took my mom, grandma, and brother their invites/std/newsletter. I knew from the start of my planning this wedding that there would be people that would not go, ok that's fine. The only thing that sort of irritated me about this is the fact that last week my grandma was all looking forward to going on this cruise with us. And today, she just kept on complaining and saying all this stuff about people don't have that kind of money, yada yada yada. I just told her that it's ok, just come to the reception here at home if she wants.

 

Because of this I decided to only invite the immediate family of my mother's side, because they seem to be the most negative about the whole thing. Plus, I don't talk to none of the other aunts and uncles anyway. Do you think this is wrong? I figured I could just give them an invite to the reception announcing that we got married wherever.

[mdb]

I would say just invite them and if they don't come... then at least you can say you tried. : ) if your inviting from one side, you should probably invite from the other side. Just my thought

[JanineA]

It sucks that now it seems their enthusiasm is gone but I think you should invite who you truly want to invite. I only invited three Aunts and all of them were super excited initially and only one has actually booked. My FI's grandparents aren't going and though he was disappointed at first we just tarted saying perhaps it is a blessing. Invite the core people that you know you want there and like you said the rest can attend your AHR. As for those with a change of heart don't be surprised if closer to the time they book. We had friends complain and complain that it was too expensive and who do we think we were wanting people to spend so much money.....same people booked and were boasting all over FB. They may complain now and end up booking.Invite them put the ball in their court and at least you have a clear conscience that you tried. Good luck!

[MSBRANDI]

Thanks ladies, I'm sort of over it now. But, I am not going to worry with it.

[AishaB]

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Originally Posted by MSBRANDI Today I took my mom, grandma, and brother their invites/std/newsletter. I knew from the start of my planning this wedding that there would be people that would not go, ok that's fine. The only thing that sort of irritated me about this is the fact that last week my grandma was all looking forward to going on this cruise with us. And today, she just kept on complaining and saying all this stuff about people don't have that kind of money, yada yada yada. I just told her that it's ok, just come to the reception here at home if she wants. Because of this I decided to only invite the immediate family of my mother's side, because they seem to be the most negative about the whole thing. Plus, I don't talk to none of the other aunts and uncles anyway. Do you think this is wrong? I figured I could just give them an invite to the reception announcing that we got married wherever.

That is definitely a tough thing but I think that you are dealing with it the right way. Just go with the flow and invite and associate with people with good karma and pleasant attitudes. People who are being negative really dont help at all. Good luck and I know everything will work out!

[Hopelesslyblissful]

I know exactly how you feel. My FI's side of the family was totally against our wedding. My mother in law to be only booked two weeks ago! The rest of his family isn't coming though b/c they think it's too expensive. So since I KNOW they aren't coming, I am not sending them the passport invites that I poured my heart into...I am mkaing them simpler invites. They won't know the difference!!

[MSBRANDI]

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Originally Posted by Hopelesslyblissful I know exactly how you feel. My FI's side of the family was totally against our wedding. My mother in law to be only booked two weeks ago! The rest of his family isn't coming though b/c they think it's too expensive. So since I KNOW they aren't coming, I am not sending them the passport invites that I poured my heart into...I am mkaing them simpler invites. They won't know the difference!!

Ha, Ha. I am doing the same thing that you are doing. If I know these people are not coming, I'm not sending them a invite. So there. lol. I'm just like you have a whole year, but I don't even care anymore. I think the thing that gets to me the most is the people that don't even say yes or no. I mean, just say yea I'm interested, no i'm not. I am not going to beg, so I hope that noone is looking for that.
Oh, and my recent piss off is the fact that I called my DAD and he told me in so many words that he is upset because he doesn't like water or air. Well, sorry I am not here to please, I had to tell him that I had to do what is best for us. Its way cheaper, and nobody has offered to fund a wedding in our hometown. So really, why would I give a damn what anybody thinks? And to top it off , DAD, is getting married, AGAIN! So, Dad, you have been knowing this for like, three weeks, when were you going to tell me? Don't get me wrong, I don't care about him getting married, its just he wants me to consider his feelings, but what about mine? Sorry, had to vent to someone.