venting bride to be about neg. guest comments
Posted 22 August 2007 - 02:51 PM
Now about the AHR, the question of me having a shower, and the idea of us wanting cash for our presents, I am getting grief about those left and right. It makes me happy that I'm not planning a wedding for 150+ people to attend.
Posted 23 August 2007 - 03:04 PM
My boyfriend and I have finally decided to get married (after 20 years together) and we haven't told anyone yet.
But when we do i'll let you know their comments but I'm of the mind that as long as my boyfriend, myself and our three children are there, then if anyone else comes it will be a bonus.
Posted 24 August 2007 - 02:47 AM
Girlfriend: "Oh, I won't be able to make it to your Maya Riviera wedding because I have renovations; we fired the contractor and now he put a lien on our house, etc."
I was fine with that comment...until she said in the same breath, "I'm so stressed out...I need so need a vacation. Thank goodness me and so-and-so will be going to Hong Kong."
Another girlfriend: "I can't afford it, have a mortgage to pay, our debts from our wedding, etc."
Then when invited to my shower AND family rehearsal dinner, she couldn't make it because she's going on a two-week vacation to Fiji. (7 months before that, she was on another vacation to Cancun.)
You can't afford to go to my wedding, but somehow can afford a two weeks vacation to Hong Kong/Fiji!!!---I was SO hurt.
Posted 24 August 2007 - 03:00 AM
BTW, the ones who did that to me haven't called to see how the wedding was and I haven't called to tell them. I guess they didn't belong on the guest list in the first place, but sure as shi*t if I didn't invite them they would have been upset. Go figure.
Posted 25 January 2008 - 04:01 PM
Posted 25 January 2008 - 04:58 PM
Here are some comments I've heard..
"Tell you're dad to stop being so cheap and to throw a proper wedding here so we can all attend" I just looked at her and said, #1 it is not my Dad's responsibility to pay for my wedding, he helped with my education, #2 we are having a wedding in Mexico because it is our dream wedding and #3 what makes you think it is so much more inexpensive?
"You realize you won't be getting any gifts/money?" Oh really, wow, I never thought about that!! Let me change all my plans, have a wedding that I totally don't want (large, traditional) all so I can get $. I did not realize the most important day of my life should be about making $.
"We will attend your AHR" GRRR...this just pisses me off. We are not having one but somehow FMIL went around telling FH's family members she was planing a celebration for us and his friends. We told her several times, we are only having one wedding, one celebration. We are not spending $ to fly out so you can throw a party that is more about you and all of FH's friends. I guess my family/friends don't matter.
"At least there is not alot to plan and there is no stress on your part" WTF? If you saw my list of things to do, you would eat your words.
My 2 Favourites:
From FH's Aunt, "If you were getting married in February in Cuba we would certainly come but I'm sure you can understand that we can't afford 2 vacations in one year" I understand, so why don't you just come to Mexico and forgo going to Cuba for the thousand time. It would mean alot to us to have you there, especially Justin you are his aunt. Her response" Oh you guys are young and so you tend to think everything is important and are overly sensitive" WTF? It's our wedding, you cow of course we think its important. My anger towards her stems that till this day she has yet to call and tell my fiancee that she can't attend. She is too chicken. Everytime she sees him she walks away. For Christmas and his birthday she dropped off a gift at some random door in our building. Lady you can't buy his love.
Now this is the one that really hits home. I went to my sister's DW a few years ago. We were poor, I was a student and it was very expensive, plus we had to pay to kennel our dog. But there was no hesitation, we were not going to miss my sister's wedidng. Fast forward to our DW, she has decided she can't afford to come. This coming from a woman who travels to the Carribean 1 to 2 times a year, has a nanny, maid, expensive cars, large house, and who announced proudly at Christmas that she got herself a personal trainer and a $1000 Christmas tree because the old one did not look as nice in their new house. I'm so glad her priorities are straight, I mean her sister's wedding or a nicer Christmas tree. I don't know, the decision is oh so tough...
What I say to all DW brides is forget about all these negative people...our weddings will be awesome and why would we want all these negative people to share in our day. They are just jealous because they had a cookie cutter wedding, with so many people that they did not have time to enjoy their guests. Think about it, a wedding of 200 people, just to spend one minute with each guest is over 3 hours of your night. And by the way, its our wedding!!! Don't you get it?
Posted 25 January 2008 - 08:13 PM
Oh and "i don't know if we can travel that far" this is coming from people who travel a lot farther to college football games on the weekend.
"Oh, anyone can come can't they. It's not like your paying for a reception. everyone just pays for themself." Hello I'm paying for a reception and not anyone can come, that's what the invitations I sent out are for. It's not someone's family vacation. It's my wedding and a vacation with the people I want to spend the time with.
"did you have to pick somewhere so expensive" NO I DIDNT. i could of picked a shack on the beach but i that's not what i wanted. if you don't want to spend the mula than don't go!!!
Wow that vent session really did feel good!!!
Posted 25 January 2008 - 09:03 PM
Posted 26 January 2008 - 03:33 AM
Posted 26 January 2008 - 12:12 PM
FMIL says "dear, I know it's FI's second wedding, but it's your first. You can have it anywhere you want." My response was "and that is exactly what I'm doing."
God bless friends, loved ones and family who get that it is what I want. And god bless a small guest list, too.
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