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I think we have had these rude remarks! I really donâ€t understand why people have to be so rude. At first I was really hurt but now I really donâ€t care. You get through it and have beautiful wedding!

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After reading all of these comments, I feel much better. It's naive but I honestly thought only my family and friends were being so inconsiderate. I don't understand why it's so upsetting to them either. I mean really...is it the thought of missing out on a free party/dinner?

 

I personally find some weddings to be a chore- it's all the same and sometimes really boring. I didn't want that at all. I wanted people to go because they wanted to- not because they felt obligated. DW is perfect for this. People who want to go will go AND they will appreciate all the effort we have been making to insure they have a helluva good time once they get there!

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Do what you want! Do what you want! Do what you want!

 

Jay and I listened to our guts (that sounds weird) and we don't regret anything. Our wedding day was perfect! I will never forget Jay and I walking on the beach looking at tuquoise water after we said I do! Simply the most beautiful day I've ever had. If we listened to other people, we wouldn't have had the day of our dreams. If having a DW weeds out the a**holes who want to bring you down...then cool..they can stay home while you drink margaritas with sand between your toes.

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You know what I say? F them all. [/i]
That was going to be my response as well. i think a proper and reasonable comeback to all these very RUDE comments is,

"This is our DREAM wedding. I know that you love me and would never ask me to change or cancel my life long dream just because you think it's inconvenient. Right?"

and if they continue I think the next answer is something like this:

"We understand if you can't make it." period - no discussion.

If they want to be obnoxious then they don't have to come! I mean really - it's not like you're asking them to go to the north pole in the middle of winter! If thyey don't want to come or can't afford it or whatever then they can just stay home. Seriously - f*uck them! They can have their weddings anywhere they want and you can promise not to say a word.

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i guess the other thing that is often not mentioned is that i think a lot of Dan's friends from Philly actually came because it WAS is Mexico! So you may be pleasantly surprised at who is just as excited as you are about the trip!

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I've heard so much from my siblings as well...I'm the last of 7 to get married, and with both of my parents gone they all have their own ideas of what my wedding should be like. I cried a lot at the beginning, got in a huge fight with my sister and since have ignored or smiled politely when I get comments of, you could just do it at a beach here? I'd love to have them all there, but in the end it only matters if the 2 of us are there to celebrate our special day! I take a lot of deep breaths as well :)
I cried a lot at the beginning too, I thought my family and future in laws were just not happy to see us get married. My fiance and I just finally said this is what we are doing, and it's final!

I called my mom and told her about this thread and she said she didn't realize how rude and mean they were being... but they're all excited now!smile159.gif

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We are getting it too, from the people who WANT to be there but can't afford it. That's fine. Looks like the couple who were going to stand up for us (our best friends) won't be able to make it because of money problems (yes, it's APRIL next year.. but I won't go there) and he is trying to make us feel bad because we aren't having it here, so it's convenient (and cheap) for them.

 

Well sorry, but Chris and I have never even been away together! So yes, we are going away and we are getting married. Period. It's what we want.

 

With the exception of those two, everyone says to our face, ya we are going, but not one person has put a deposit down. I have told everyone the prices are going up at the end of August, yet still no one has put the money down. So you know what? FUG EM. If they do end up getting off their arse to put a deposit down and it's more expensive, ya know what? SUCKS TO BE U. We sent out our STD's in MARCH for crying out loud, 13 months before the wedding.

 

My parents thought we were basically doing a long-planned elope. I love this way of thinking. But they are getting relatives calling saying this and that, and they are starting to stress about it because they can't go (my mom is ill) and I told them not to go. I could care less if anyone else goes.

 

FUG EM ALL. Me and Chris on the beach.

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My response to any comments like that has always been:

 

To the married ones- "You had your wedding. Remember it? This is mine."

To the unmarried ones - "You will have your own wedding someday. I will not try to plan a single element of it. I ask that you do the same."

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My response to any comments like that has always been:

 

To the married ones- "You had your wedding. Remember it? This is mine."

To the unmarried ones - "You will have your own wedding someday. I will not try to plan a single element of it. I ask that you do the same."

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