venting bride to be about neg. guest comments

[TammyB]

I had to deal with alot of the same remarks. My parents gave me the 3rd degree lecture for having a DW when they were too poor to attend. My sister acted like she wanted to go but made every excuse under the sun why she couldn't. But you and your FI need to know that it is about the two of you and what makes you happy. Cain and I would have a DW if no one was able to attend. We both had no desire to have a wedding in the states.

 

The people that matter most still make it (if they have the means that is) and that's all the matters.

[MsShelley]

I know exactly how you girls feel, and I think most girls on here are feeling the same way... My favorite from FI's family~ no less~ was "I guess you guys don't want anyone to come to your wedding, do you?" WTF? people this is not your day it's OURS!!

[starchild]

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Originally Posted by beachbride My favorite from FI's family~ no less~ was "I guess you guys don't want anyone to come to your wedding, do you?" WTF? people this is not your day it's OURS!!

Classic!!!

[Golden]

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Originally Posted by starchild You know what I say? F them all. Harsh but true. Some people don't get destination weddings and you have too much going on to try and explain it to them. Think of it as less people to feed, that's what I did. The people who are really down for you will show up smiling. The complainers can stay at home and live out their sheltered lives. Haters. How would some of these people feel if they had an in-town wedding and we said "why are you having it at the Hilton? can't you move it somewhere else?" Don't justify you're wedding to people, just say good riddance to bad rubbish!

you are right, people will have something to say no matter if a DW or a wedding in the states.

[Golden]

I forgot about this one: at least have something when you return home, since I can not make it.

[Heidi]

I'm getting a lot of grief as well. I've heard it all... I just told one of my BMs that we registered for our honeymoon and she says to me "what? you expect people to pay for your massages too?" lovely....

[starchild]

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Originally Posted by kendra I forgot about this one: at least have something when you return home, since I can not make it.

Oh yeah, that's popular too. We're having an AHR and NOT inviting the people that said that....only the ones who legitimately couldn't go. We had our wedding...why should we recreate it for the slackers, you know?

[twinkletoes]

I'm going through the exact same thing. My 2 favorite things I've heard thus far are:

 

* "Well, are you at least going to pay for everybody to go?" and

* "Evidently you planned on not wanting anyone to attend your wedding, otherwise you wouldnt be going overseas!"

 

I can only imagine some of the other things I'm going to hear! But like someone else said, I could care less if it was just me and my FI. Of course, I would LOVE to have all of my family there, but before I even started planning, I knew some of my family would flip. But this is what my FI and I want and NO ONE in our family/friends is going to change that. You would think that they would realize how much stress you already have with trying to plan a wedding! For once in my life, its time to be selfish. lol.

 

Besides, you can always send them a postcard! lol

[TATrisha]

I'm not even engaged yet and just from talking about it (i've learned to keep my mouth shut) but I've already heard the normal "wow, nobody will be at your wedding," "you aren't getting married in a church, then it's not a real wedding."

But, my favorite was when I showed someone my resort and they said "you know, that's kind of far from the airport, there are a LOT of other resorts out there." Yeah, there are... but I did my research and this is what WE want! Ugh. people.

[nellieboo]

I've heard so much from my siblings as well...I'm the last of 7 to get married, and with both of my parents gone they all have their own ideas of what my wedding should be like. I cried a lot at the beginning, got in a huge fight with my sister and since have ignored or smiled politely when I get comments of, you could just do it at a beach here? I'd love to have them all there, but in the end it only matters if the 2 of us are there to celebrate our special day! I take a lot of deep breaths as well