Crazy Ex vent

[Sax Lady]

So ladies this is my first vent. I didnt think I would have to do one, but as we all know things happen with weddings. So one of my FI's ex's just found out a couple of days ago that he is getting married and now she is calling us and leaving crazy messages and saying crazy things. I just dont understand some females. It didnt work out with you so you are trying to mess things up because your not happy. Can you just move on. And by the way I dont even know her, but you know how some people are they dont care. And this is not even the ex wife just a crazy ex friend (not even girlfriend) that was suppose to be his friend but he messed up with they took it to another level. I told him that when that happend it was no longer a friendship but you know how guys are sometimes (dont think).

 

thanks ladies just needed to get that off my chest.

[Shoesiesluvr]

Wow, sorry that you are going thru this...but sounds like you are taking the right approach to this, just keep your head up throughout all of this and if you can just ignore her. good luck!

[Thomasjsgirl]

Sounds like my ex-husband! He knew about our wedding a year before we actually had to board the plane, and 2 days before we're set to leave he starts with the drunk-dialling. Your best option is to ignore her - if you give her an audience, she won't stop because that's what she's looking for. Do you subscribe to call-blocking? If not, this might be a good time to order it!

 

Good luck with the crazy lady -- you'll laugh about this whole thing soon enough!

[CND_Redhead]

My FI's ex wife is like that (drunk dialing and such) then acts like nothing happened the next time we see/talk to her.

I could go on and on for hours/pages about some of the stuff she has pulled. At first it really bugged me and did hinder our relationship a bit. I mean I couldn't understand why someone, who was with someone else and was the one that ended the relationship, would work so hard to make a person's life hell.

 

Anyway, we've learned to let is slide as much as possible. We make sure it doesn't affect the kids (as best we can -FI has 2 boys with her) and just go about our business.

 

I know for a fact she will try some stunts as the wedding gets closer. She is already pulling one. The TA needs to know what it says on the kids passports and she has them and we've been asking for 2 mnts now to know what the names are listed as and she keeps giving us excuses.

 

Anyway, my advise, just keep going along, remember its your life and they are obviously hurting if they have to do things to try to cause trouble in anyone else's life!!!

 

Enjoy your moments!

 

Cheers,

[Girasole]

So sorry to hear you are dealing with this! That is one thing I am so glad didn't happen to us, either of our ex's causing issues. Just enjoy yourselves and try not to think about it, you can even block her phone number just to stop the annoying calls.

[knitgirl13]

You should just get her number (& e-mail, facebook, etc.) blocked. That's what my FI did when one of his ex-girlfriend's went crazy and started calling him everyday and sending me facebook messages and stuff.

[Sax Lady]

thanks ladies for all the advise. The crazy thing is we live in to different countries. She is really mad because her life is not good with her and her husband (yes she is married) and in her mind her and my FI have a relationship but they dont. She did contiue to call yesterday but hasnt today so hopefully for now its over. He has talked with her and told her to stop calling me. I tried to block the number but because it is a cell number it wouldnt let me block it. The main reason this really got me upset is because I am living with my parents and this is the number that she is calling and she left a very nasty message yesterday and I had to earse before my parents got home. Luckily I got it before they did. But again thank you ladies very much. We are just trying to put it out the way and contiue on put some people I tell you just wont let up because she is still calling him and everytime we are on the phone she will keep calling and hanging up because she can tell he's on the phone. whewwwwwwwwwww if its not one thing its another.

 

well enough of that back to wedding planning. haha

[hockeymom97]

Just take a deep breath and repeat to yourself..."be the bigger person...be the bigger person"...LOL

 

But seriously...don't let her ruin anything for you...she's just an unwanted distraction...nothing more

[StephyD]

I'm sorry you have to go through this!! I was also having problems with my fiancé's ex for a little while... but blocking her completely from our emails, facebook, etc, kept her away. Thank goodness!

[JanineA]

Wow! Exs are crazy. I haven't dealt with anything like this but my advice would be to take the high road. Ignore her, the minute you give her a reaction you give her importance or an actual place in things which is what she is looking for. She is a nonevent treat her as such. Some people just can't take seeing other people happy. Sooner or later she'll realize how pathetic her games are and wake up. Sheesh where is her self respect. Hopefully she realizes sooner rather than later. Keep your head up.