Shan02 - were getting married on Jan 26!! CANT WAIT .. not only for the wedding but the trip too
if you go with the dinner that's included in the package you can still have music. although its not private - they still section off a part of the restaurant for you & your guests...so its kind of semi private. you can rent the speakers from the hotel...I know its on the extra list & it wasn't that expensive. I'm guessing if you let her know that you want a little dancing area they might section you off a little bit more & just remove a table.
I'm glad to hear that the DJ is free for the first hour after the ceremony. that way we can have it for the cocktail hour! (my fiance wanted the mariachi band; but, that was something like $450 for 45 min!! - cant remember the price exactly)