Sorry I need to really really vent!!
Posted 20 May 2010 - 06:09 PM
18 MONTHS FRICKEN NOTICE!!
well 10 months has passed.....
7mnths 3 wks to go........
so far it all excuses mostly they couldnt afford it... so me and FI are racking our brains to find a way to pay some of the cost for them.......
and today my mum tells me she's paying £400 for a mobile phone for my sister!!! really!! WTF!
It was the straw that broke my back!! it turned into a huge fight and she turned it on me saying how selfish I am etc etc....
Im so upset and furious!
If my sister (BM) wont be there and my dad not there to give me away with my mum watching then I'd rather know now, more time to deal with it and try to accept it....not that I ever could cause it would break my heart if they weren't there on my wedding day!!
Sorry I had to get this out! FI has bore the brunt of this all day!!
Posted 20 May 2010 - 06:46 PM
Sending you positive thoughts
Posted 20 May 2010 - 06:56 PM
However! It is a godsend to have this board here!!
Im def taking a leaf from your book and trying to be positive about it! No matter the outcome! Thankyou!
Posted 20 May 2010 - 06:59 PM
What I mean by that is, sit down, open up a word document and start typing a letter directly to your mother. Let her know why you chose a destination wedding, how important this day is to you, what you envision, how it is your vision and you couldn't imagine them not being there.
The reason I say write a letter to her is because sometimes people tend not to HEAR you when you're talking, instead they are forming a line of defense. When you write it down and give it to them (send preferrably) there is no way they can open up their mouth to come with a defense. and if you're genuine and heartfelt in the letter, I think it really has a chance of getting through to her.
I wish you the best hon!!
Posted 20 May 2010 - 07:06 PM
Posted 21 May 2010 - 07:50 AM
I do agree with Krizstyling as well, try writing a letter will help you explain how you feel and will give your Mum chance to think about it from your point of view.
This site is great and you'll get some good advice, they best I've read whilst reading posts about family not coming (I have my own issue's with my Sister.... but that's a long story!) is that they are the one's that are going to regret it in the long run, you and you FI will be there and that's the important bit, imagine when you get home and along with the rest of the guests and your looking through photo's and talking about the whole day..... the people who missed out are going to be the ones regretting it!
Posted 21 May 2010 - 07:52 AM
Still, whether they admit it or not they are hurting your feelings. I hope you all can have a productive discussion about it and in the end I'm sure the wedding will be just fine
Posted 21 May 2010 - 09:28 AM
Posted 21 May 2010 - 02:15 PM
and I still have 4 rooms that I have to fill and idk if we can get enough ppl to go!!!
Posted 25 May 2010 - 09:23 AM
Trust me, I drove myself nuts before my wedding about my guest list and all the people that didn't come. And now, I wish that I didn't waste a second on any of them! It all worked out and was even better than I expected! I know it will be the same for you! Good luck!
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