Originally Posted by LKocelko
I need to vent. We put an RSVP on the wedding invites of 3/1/13 - last Friday. Naturally several of my FI's sibilings don't respond. Which, I find to be incredibly rude. We have been told this entire time one of his older brothers IS coming. I ask him to text him to confirm which meal choice he'll want, and now we are told "I'm still not sure if I'm coming or not." Seriously?! And his sister (who has been a total b**** about the whole wedding, another store) is the same way. How do you people not know if you're flying to Mexico in two months?! I lost it. I told Sam that if we don't know by Friday, then they aren't coming. And if they show up, then they won't have a meal. Maybe I was out of line, but this was just the icing on the cake. I just can't believe how rude people can be! Sorry, end rant.
Unfortunately a lot of people don't seem to understand the importance of RSVP. You can't just plan a wedding overnight! And yes, I agree with you, it is very rude of them not to have responded at all.
I am sure it is very frustrating, especially since it's family. But take a big breath, step back and realize you can't control every situation. Right now you have to concentrate on your wedding and those people who are going to be there to support and your enjoy your wedding with you and your FI.
As for anyone who has not RSVP at this point, consider that they will not be attending- their lose in my opinion! And although it may be very disappointing, you need to move forward. We had tons of family and friends keep telling us...yes, we're coming. And in the end they didn't. And even though it caused me a lot of stress at the start I realized, that is one of the downfalls of a DW. A lot of people can't afford it, or just don't want to make the effort.
So concentrate on those that are coming, and just be willing to adjust if you have last minute joiners. We had 3 people decide to attend within the last 2 weeks. (the blessing is the WCs are super with adjusting things and adding on chairs, meals, etc.) So don't worry, if things change- it can be adjusted! Good luck, we have all had similiar frustrations with our wedding planning and sometimes it's helpful just to know you're not the only one going through this mess