Originally Posted by murmel
There are so many bars at EDR, that meeting at a smaller one out of the way will feel like a private cocktail party anyway! Just let your guests know when and where. And if you have a guest list larger than 20, I would try to give the WC a heads up so they can plan for bartenders. As for OOT bags, we met our guests as they arrived at the hotel (we got married at Azul Sensatori), but it worked out great, plus the guests thought it was a really nice personal touch to be greeted as they arrived.
I am so sorry to hear about all your stress! Just concentrate on you, your FI, and your family. The wedding is for you and your FI, and having guests is a bonus. But at the end of the day, it's your day. Don't let others ruin it. Just tell those friends that complain- "we didn't want to have a big affair here locally. We would love to have you there, but no pressure, we understand if you can't make it." Hopefully they are smart enough to then keep their mouths shut.
In the meantime, know that all destination brides go through similar stress, and we are all here to lend support! Take a deep breath, enjoy the time with your son, and then get going with the planning again.
Always fun! Although sometimes when it's super windy (which it is down there), it's tricky to have the bubbles blown or stay where you want them.
Love the hand-fastening ceremonies. But you may find that because it's unknown by the minister down there, it might be a bit tricky to do right.
As for the sand shifting. Just bring some foam chunks down with you that you can stuff into the top of the vase. That way the sand will be wedged in place and will not shift. As well, if you take it in your carry on, you can keep it upright.
It really depends on the outfit your groom is wearing. My husband wore a linen suit, with bright pink Converse sneakers. His groomsmen wore shorts and short sleeve dress shirts, some ended up bare foot, and others with sandels. But I have also seen more traditional weddings where the men wear dress shoes. You'll likely get a bit of sand in there, but I don't think it will be a big deal. And after the ceremony, they can always dump what little sand there might be out.
Using a TA is helpful in a lot of regards. They will work at getting you and your guests a good room rate, as well as airfare. Plus if you have someone doing the work for you, you won't have guests bugging you. Also if you find a GI travel agent, you often get special bonuses at the Karisma resorts. I can recommend Wright Travel agency, see below for a direct link. (bonuses could include room upgrade, free cocktail party, etc.)
As for budget planning, it can be daunting, but they are lots of options for every budget in mind. I know when I had started planning I could only find the huge wedding packages that were thousands of dollars. But as you do more research you will find lots of simple options to keep the price down. We personally ended up with a basic package and then added on small details.
http://www.weddingsb...l.com/planning/ This is the planning page from Lomas, take some down at look at the options and I am sure you will find the makings of a perfect wedding (and price)!
There are no set rules for when and how you send out STD or invites. Personally I sent out our STD about a year in advance. Then we sent out invites about 6 months in advance with the travel info, TA contact, website, etc. I wanted to make sure if people wanted to come they had time to save up and plan. Once people had confirmed last payment and I actually knew who was coming we sent a little pre-travel package (luggage tags and what to expect in Mexico brochure, kids travel booklet for the plane) about a month before the wedding. http://www.bestdesti...added-on-page-2 (link to the travel brochure)
http://www.bestdesti...mplate-included (kids airplane booklet)
Karisma resorts have no problems with brides bringing their own decor. Just be aware there is a set-up fee which is determined by the onsite WC. This price could be $5/pp, but usually will be under $250. It really depends on how much extra decor they have to set up and how many guests. Keep in mind this a price that is negotiated locally, and is to be paid in cash.