oh Gale, I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. It's certainly not unusual for any wedding, especially a destination wedding, but it sure does suck. You can't let the local friends and the ones who are whining about cost steal your happiness. It sounds like you've been through a lot to find the right one, and dang it, you deserve to be able to celebrate your marriage exactly how you want. With that said, you have to accept that people are crappy, and not everyone will be happy for you. And not everyone will be there on your wedding day - they will be the ones missing you, NOT YOU. But those that DO go, those are real friends. They are the ones who will be there for you and support your marriage. You will have an amazing time, it'll be beautiful, and you'll have a great time with those who make the effort.
Don't let their issues get you down. You can't control how they act, react, or respond to a destination wedding. You can control how you respond and handle the situation.
With your son heading off to basic, that's added stress. So spend the next 20 days focused on your family - your core family. Let the wedding drama float on by and focus on what's most important. The drama & stress they are causing just isn't worth it. Hang in there!!
Originally Posted by mstigger
So, I feel a mini-melt down coming. I'm just really fed up with so called friends complaining about the cost of attending my wedding. REALLY?? It's my wedding, and while you are invited it in no way means you have to be there. How about someone who is supposedly one of my "best friends" saying her boyfriend wanted to know how we can "expect" them to pay that kind of money to go to our wedding. Have I mentioned this is my 3rd marriage? I know that's a lot, but first time was my baby daddy who was abusive.....took 10 years of that and had enough. Second time was a minor lapse in judgement....he stole some of my 401k and gave it to his ex-wife. As I told my family, my picker has been broke for years!!! So Chuck and I went to high school together and I feel like I finally got it right......it just took some trials and tribulations to get there. We both wanted to get married on the beach and we wanted it to be small. I still sent out numerous invitations knowing most would not attend. I just don't get this kind of friendship....it is unbelievable. My MOH is actually a girl we graduated with and her and I reconnected last year while I was debating rekindling things with Chuck. She was great then and has been great now. She is actually making my bouquet out of shells - took that project on all by herself!! So, my local friends have done nothing. Offered no help of any kind and the one friend who I really thought would help me out has been MIA. My mother is attending the wedding and we are close, but she's been no help either. No input, no suggestions, nothing. I'm a hot mess right now!! I think this is what I need!!!
With my son leaving for basic in 20 days, I'm kind of stumped on the whole wedding thing. I have no motivation and just feel so frustrated and irritated!!
Think all that's normal?? Sorry for the long dialogue, just needed to vent!!!