Originally Posted by chiquita8302
That is kind of how I feel- like I don't love the idea of asking for gifts. I was actually even worried about inviting everyone to an AHR- would people feel like it's an afterthought, or that we're just doing it to get gifts, or something like that? I just would like the opportunity to involve at least my mom and what not in some special event... maybe even throw the dress back on for some photo ops, or something like that? I don't really know.
I was thinking it would be fun do it at a lake, so we could just party and then at some point I could put my dress back on for a few phot ops, and then have a trash-the-dress type of photo op with everyone, but then was thinking about how quickly the costs add up if we turn it into kind of a big event...
There is a lake that we love that a lot of Kyle's friends have boats on, so it would be fun do go for a weekend (I had actually thought of getting married here but somehow it turned into a dw lol) and just anyone could come if they want, there are cabins to rent, that kind of thing... but I don't know what kind of event I'd have to offer them (i.e. dj, catering, etc like a real wedding, or just burgers and hanging out casual type of thing.)
Make it a relaxed, casual thing! Do it by the lake, but make sure it's just burgers and beer, etc. Maybe make it an "all white party" to have a little fun? Have a few photo books around so people can see the wedding photos, and maybe a laptop with a video or slideshow running. We did a casual cocktail hour (2 hours) and yes, I wore my dress! People loved it. And yes, some brought gifts, but most just came out to celebrate with us. And I don't think you should be worried about who to invite. People may not have attended the wedding for cost factors, but would love to be included closer to home!
That's what I'm thinking too, originally I wanted lots of people and fun dancing- but I think they'll need encouragement to actually get up and let loose. So, a DJ with glow in the dark necklaces and a light up floor seemed like the way to go. But, now it's looking like the group is going to be smaller and all of that will be over kill. It's hard to judge what this group will be like, since I've never had this exact mix of people together before. But, I don't have final numbers or even close to it yet...so I know I'm over-reacting a bit. Just, everyone and their mother seems to be getting pregnant right now and my friends/family keep dropping out left and right. The big scare is that of the 20 people I thought were a "yes for sure" 12 of them have real commitments that they won't be able to get out of. But, on the plus side the first couple on my "maybe" list just paid and bought airfare, so that is promising. There might be other people who surprise me still.
Most people will dance, since it's a relaxed environment. But I love the suggestion from another bride- get song requests! That way there is something for everyone. And if you think glowsticks will make the party, buy some at Micheal's craft store and have them available for after dinner to get the party started!
Originally Posted by chiquita8302
So... we finally have everything all set with our photographers.... we're using Garone Photgraphy (http://www.garonephotography.com/) who happen to be family friends of ours. They are the best of the best and I couldn't be more excited that we were able to coordinate things with them... they've done literally all of my bridesmaids weddings as well (once one girl used them, the rest of us followed suite after seeing how great they did!), so it is nice to have that consistency as well- almost everyone at the wedding knows them, so it makes it that much more fun. :-)
PHEW! Next up... waiting for final RSVP's and making our final payment (RSVP's due Nov 15th, payment due Nov 30th).... then I can go back to trying to figure out the finishing touches like decorations, flowers and centerpieces. :-)
So happy to hear you found your photographer. It is always such a difficult and expensive task.