I completely understand with the close friends and family throwing the "we cant afford it" but in all actuality, they could afford it, they just chose to take vacations elsewhere... and then post the pics of facebook... of their multiple vacations...
It's very frustrating and I remember it never got easier for me to handle. My husband kept saying he wish I didnt take it personally, but how can you not?! Close friends or family choosing to not share one of the most important days of your life because they dont feel like it. I am still a little peeved at some of the people we invited, but what can you do? Just remember that the people who care about you most and have the finances will be there!
Originally Posted by mstigger
Good morning ladies!!!
Couple of questions for all of you and a little venting on my part
When did you send out your actual invitations and how early was your RSVP by date?
What seemed like it was going to be a decent turnout has really kind of fallen off as everyone we seem to know has decided it's too expensive for them even though they were all on board when we booked it. So probably going to be a very small, intimate ceremony for us and just the dinner at their restaurant.....I am good with all of that, that's actually what I wanted all along but you know how it is when your parents get involved, they want you to invite everyone they know!!
So, here's my venting part. My FI lives in WV and I live in SC, no problem there but I have friends in both states. I actually graduated from high school in WV. One of my HS friends was actually instrumental in getting my FI and I together for all of this good stuff, so I asked her to be my maid/matron of honor. I only wanted 1 and she was so great when I was debating our relationship, so anyway it appears I made a great decision by asking her. My BFF here in SC was so excited about the wedding, couldn't wait to go to Cancun even if she had to go alone for a long weekend. I went so far as to plan my date around her final exams as she is a Professor at a local community college.
She went away on a cycling charity ride and came back to have this conversation with me via text:
"Would you be really mad if I didn't go to Cancun for the wedding? I've just been thinking about it and it's a lot of money."
I said of course not, I understand that it's expensive and we were hoping we could get someone to room with you to make it less expensive.
She then proceeded to tell me that if she was going to take a vacation that wasn't the kind of vacation she would take anyway and didn't want to spend that kind of money on a vacation she wouldn't enjoy. (She recently quit drinking and apparently thinks that's all there is to do there.)
I just said that I understood and it was no big deal.
Then she said that her and the group she was cycling with talked about biking through Italy next May and she would much rather do that!!
I could not believe it!!!! So money was the excuse and then when it came down to it she just got a better offer!!!
Sooooo, I'm disappointed in our friendship and hurt and a little pissed off. I know I should just get over it, but DAMN!!!!
Oh and she wasn't even dating anyone and now she is engaged and getting married in May and going to Italy......
So, do I still send her an invitation or not bother wasting my time since my invites are messages in a bottle and a huge DIY project.
Ok, that's it for now.....sorry so long and drawn out. I think I'm still a bit in shock, how can that be a BFF??