| Originally Posted by Woodsylou |
i agree, there are many things you could be doing. are you going to make your stationery or buy it? you might want to start looking at that. also thinking of themes, looking at things you'd want as centrepieces/placecards/favours which are easily transportable (as you'll be packing everything) that kind of thing! good luck!
i need some advice from you girls. i have a friend, we were best friends for about 6 years. we used to go on holiday together all the time (barbados twice a year) and because we're so close i know how she works, i know what she earns etc etc.
when i got engaged and booked Mexico she said her and her boyf would only be able to come for a week, because of cost. i TOTALLY understand that, it's not cheap. then about a week later she said only she would come, because her boyf's job doesn't have paid leave etc. totally understand. then a little bit later she said they couldnt' come at all because they were planning on trying for a baby in late 2010 and they needed to save money. i was a little bit put out, but what can you do. anyway,since then the boyf has got a new job, 5 weeks paid leave etc and a payrise. she has also had a promotion and a £5k payrise and an off the cuff £3k bonus too. (I know all this, because she's not shy in telling people she earns £58k a year etc etc) . But even so, they haev never mentioned coming to the wedding (oh, she's also a bridesmaid!!)
on her facebook last week it said 'Friend A is looking at holidays in the Dominican Republic, anyone been?' so i was a bit pee'd off to say the least. but i didn't say anything. she sent me an email linking me to a hotel in dom rep asking me what i think!!! what could i say?! i said it looks nice and she said that if she could afford our wedding she'd do that but she can't. basically she's making the excuse that the Moon Palace is a lot more expensive, which im sure it is, but she doesn't have to stay there! a few of our friends are staying at other, cheaper resorts and coming in for a day or two.
last night her status said 'Friend A is considering the Sandals resort in Cuba, anyone been?'
now every time i read it i feel like ive been kicked in the stomach. lots of people text me last night saying 'omg have you seen friend a's status?' so i know im not alone in thinking it's out of order.
i don't know how to 'get over it' because i don't want it to bother me. i don't want her to come to my wedding now anyway, she's clearly not the friend i thought she was. but it still hurts every time i see it.
i don't expect any of you to make it better, but any advice?!
It is true she isnt a true friend to make up crap excuses like that then rub your nose in it!
Totally understand what your talking about my FI's brother tried to say they couldnt afford ours when they've already been on 2 holidays (in the space of 4 months) and wanted to buy a new house worth a hell of alot more than the current one and earn prob 75k between him and his wife. Oh and constantly in designer clothes/bags/shoes!!!
Thing that tends to hurt the most is the people that normally do these things are the ones you'd jump through hoops for to attend theirs!