Originally Posted by kiwimel
Roo - OMG. Your story sounds like my up bringing! Accept I was the poor girls with the nits, no hair cuts and shoddy, horrible clothes. My mum essentially used my sister and I as a cash cow through my dad to fund the 4 other children she had to 2 other fathers. We would go home to my dads and my stepmum would strip us off before we wwalked in the door! Our clothes were either binned or soaked till the stitching came apart from the napisan! Our shoes were polished and we were chucked in a bath of detol and 2 doses of nit shampoo. Then we were feed till we gained so much weight that it took the whole school term to lose it. We were wormed and dosed on vitamin C and then shipped out for doctors, dentists and hairdressers appointments!
To this day - as a little girl of 9, I was so humiliated and felt so protective of my mother but also so desperate to not have to go back home.
I just want to let you know, that these children will appreciate what you do for them one day. More then you realise at this very moment. My stepmum made us feel like normal people again after that bit of routine. I really feel for you and think you are doing a brave and amazing job. People forget sometimes how difficult it is to be a stepmum as you are usually painted as some interferring/horrible person but at the end of the day, people forget that you are taking on a whole nother family and that is something that not all that many people can relate to.
Keep going - be the bigger person, try not to slag off their mum in front of them however hard that is to do and just try and be an ear when they want to have a moan with out voicing an opinion and I promise they will have more respect for you then they do for her. My stepmum now has the last laugh as I havent spoken to my mum for 5 years and it is my stepmum and my dad that are going to be walking me up the aisle because she was far more of a mother then my mum ever was.
So so so sorry if that was a long one girls - but I just wanted to let Roo now how special she was!
Arrrrrr, Brought a tear to my eyes!!! WOW, your one strong lucky lady :-) xox
Originally Posted by Woodsylou
here's some pics xx
my flowergirls Amber, Tabby and Eleanor, my pageboy Eddie and my MOH Janine
yeah, the shipping thing... been to have my friend look at it, i have 3 options
1- drive to Madrid
2- pay an agent to do all this for me
3- do it electonically through the post office. (i think)
another friend is going to talk to his postman for me as option 3 is the best option, fingers crossed. i tell you what tho, i am never buying any thing from outside the EU again.
on the plus side, our luggage tags, pens and my W.I.F.E t-shirt arrived today.. The pens and tags look great, but i´m really disappointed with the t-shirt..... it´s HUGE. have emailed vista to complain. i know it´s only a joke t-shirt, but still, i´d like to wear it at least once.
These are the pens and luggage tags, excuse the middle one, i can´t persuade my camera to take close ups today!
im the same, should be at the gym now actually..........................oh dear x
Ive had such a bad week. weigh myself 2moz, im sure ive put a good few pound on as ive ate choc all day today and i mean ALL day... :-( Back on it tomoz though!!!! x
Originally Posted by janapana
also meant to say, if there is a spare lucky 6p knocking around between 3rd jan and 22nd can i borrow please?
Absolutly.... No problem at all, remind me at begining of DEC (to miss xmas post) then i will get your addy and send it too you :-) xox
Originally Posted by char79uk
Nicy - I have people laugh at me to when I talk about you girls as being my friends, but to tell you the truth I sometimes feel closer to you girls then I do to my friends that are in the 'real world'. I think my friends and family get fed up of hearing me talk about my wedding especially as it is still 2 years away, sometimes they make me feel really stupid for getting so excited and planning so soon, but then I come on here and speak to you ladies and I realise that i'm allowed to be excited. As you said we are planning the biggest day of our lives together and I think of you all as friends xx
Waybuloo - I am having such complications with this..where do I start? Basically my mum and dad split up when I was 1 year old and my step dad and mum raised me. When I was 9 my step dad legally adopted me because my mum wanted all of her children to have the same name (she had 2 children with my step dad), so my original birth certificate was 'destroyed' and a new one was issued with my step dads name on it. When I reached 16 and could take control of things I had my name changed by Deed Poll back to my real dads surname...are you all with me so far??
When we decided to get married in Mexico I contacted the adoption department to find out how I go about getting my adoption reversed or cancelled or whatever, as I do not get on with my stepdad at all and want nothing to do with him and I can't stand his name being on my birth certificate, but they told me once your adopted its final and there is nothing they can do aaaarrrggghhh. So now I have to have my orginial birth cerificate which has 'ADOPTED' written all over it, my current birth certificate with my step dads name on it, my adoption certificate and my change of name Deed Poll all translated into Spanish....are you still with me??
And just to complicate things further I also need to get my mums original birth certificate, marriage and divorce certificate (she has divorced my stepdad) translated into Spanish too because she had different surnames on my original birth certificate and adoption certificate so they need a paper trail that links her names to prove that she is the same person that is named on my certificates....confused because i bloody am??
Should I just start screaming from now!!
Janapana - Nob-jockeys, you make me laff Oh and I love the pens and luggage tags, you ladies are so creative I really need to start getting with this DIY stuff xx
Roo66 - I am so glad to hear that you are feeling better, just stay away from all these negative people and try and concentrate on your wedding day....you did make me laugh when you said, and I quote 'gunna grab all his notes set them on fire and burn all his nasal hair with them' hahahahaha
Louise - your pictures are beautiful, they brought tears to my eyes and they reminded me just why we wanted a beach wedding...congratulations again hun, I can't wait to read your review xx
I started planning over 2 years before aswel, just wished id found this site sooner!! and now i have 8 and half months to go..... Time fly's and before you know it, it will be on top of you and you will be so glad you stared early.... Im hoping after xmas i will just have one or 2 things to sort, and then the rest when we get to the resort.... I love having a plan and having things sorted... I want stress free!!! :-) x
Oh my god.... I think i just about managed to understand that!!! Bloody hell, talk about complicated.... i think thats an understatement... No wonder you get confused yourself.... I had to read and re-read to keep up OH and did i mention, re-read again!!! Blimey, nothing like a family to keep things simple!!!! :-) x