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Is it ok NOT to do invitations?

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#61 sunstarsmoon

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    Posted 10 January 2011 - 04:45 AM

    I sent out STD with a RSVP I had planned on doing formal invites, everyone that is going has already booked, so now I am thinking of saving the money and not bothering with formal invitations.   Like others have said its a DW so really anyting goes

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    #62 Lua

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      Posted 10 January 2011 - 05:24 AM

      we send out an email STD in July. everyone who is coming has already booked so we decided there's no point to wasting the time and money on official invitations.

      we do however plan on sending some sort of Wedding announcement when we get home which will also act as the invitation to the AHR.

      #63 wilsonj2

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        Posted 11 January 2011 - 09:37 AM

        I have struggled (still struggling :) with this issue.  I think we've decided to do the boarding passes with no RSVP card.  Instead, I will do a second boarding pass with "please RSVP with my TA by booking your room by..."  obviously not that wordy, but something to that effect.  I actually said "formal invitation to follow" on my STD's, so I feel like I have to send them out.  I also want to encourage some people to book, as they may be waiting to the last minute.

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        #64 kellisbaby

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        Posted 12 February 2014 - 12:47 PM

        This thread is really old, but I'm going to post anyway...


        So three years later, I'm wondering if the general trend of DW has stayed the same.  I sent a postcard STD a year in advance.  I am using a travel agent / wedding coordinator and booked a rom block at the resort.  I'm asking my guests to book their rooms through the TA. 


        I sent an email "invitation" a couple of weeks after the STD with the resort info and booking instructions.  The TA sent a follow up email the next day.   1st deposits are due in April. 


        Why in the heck do I need formal invitations???  I just feel like they are super unnecessary.  I will know who's coming based off whom ever books their room.  My dad (who I am not close to) indicated we should send formal invites.  But he couldn't tell me why... etiquette reasons, I guess.


        To me they seem like a giant waste of time, paper and $$.


        What is everyone else's thoughts???  Am I making a mistake?

        #65 cocosho

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        Posted 15 February 2014 - 05:45 PM

        I agree it's llike $600 (main invitation, rsvp cards, etc) BEFORE postage that my FI and I can put toward something else.  The problem is I just don't think our guests are as progressive as we are. I do think ppl still expect to get formal invitations and I have to confess that our STD was electronic and indicated that a formal invitation would follow. 


        Yikes  - how can we save money and push people toward the digital age?




        #66 mvee1025

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          Posted 18 February 2014 - 03:38 PM

          It's totally fine.  I didn't and no one seemed to mind!

          #67 CaboLinds

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          Posted 24 February 2014 - 12:35 PM

          We sent out STD magnets a year in advance.  The group rate deposit was due Feb 15th and we are at 59 people booked already.... which is scary because the venue I wanted to use for the reception only holds 70 max.  I am thinking of sending out an informal invite and newsletter to only those who have booked (or are planning to book last min for various reasons).  I started a website as well but haven't communicated the address to anyone yet...

          #68 Megg

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          Posted 24 February 2014 - 02:30 PM

          I'm so glad this thread became "hot" again. I just assumed I had to send the formal invites because that's what people do at home weddings. But now that I've read this and thought about it, STD magnets seem to be enough. I'll include our website information and post all of the vital information on there. We are having a super small wedding (less then 20 people), I see no reason to send formal invites. It's not like we need to know for a caterer or seating charts. Thanks ladies for saving me a few bucks!

          #69 beccafries

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            Posted 25 February 2014 - 05:07 AM

            I wouldn't send out any.

            #70 kellisbaby

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            Posted 25 February 2014 - 10:50 AM

            YAY!  Thanks so much for everyone's feedback.  I feel better about not bothing with invites.  My TA keeps telling me they are not necessary and DW are low stress and casual.  Hopefully I can start listening to her soon!  hehe.

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