Is it ok NOT to do invitations?

[natalie1987]

i like the idea of einvites

[mexico102]

I didn't send STD's and don't plan on sending formal invites either (mainly due to family dysfunction). However the problem I'm running into is the cut off date. I really want a set number by a certain time but it hard to set this limit with the way I've done it. I really don't want a bunch of last minute additions but not sure how to avoid this without invites and rsvps. So I guess that would be a point pro invite w/ rsvp!

[wemkulaf]

I did STD, once people made their final payments, then I sent a wedding package to include Boarding Pass Invite, Welcome Letter, Luggage Tags, and Information about Jamaica. That way I only paid for enough invitations for those who are actually attending.

[Ellabaja1983]

This is the same question I have been coming up with. Within the last month we decided to change our plans from a big church wedding to a destination wedding (since there were outstanding issues that were taking too long to resolve with the church).

 

I personally plan on doing the STDs which I'm working on doing now, and then doing an informal invitation or an evite. I agree with the other girls though, that's the beauty of a DW, you can do what YOU want, there are now real guidelines (or so I feel)!!

[mexico102]

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Originally Posted by wemkulaf I did STD, once people made their final payments, then I sent a wedding package to include Boarding Pass Invite, Welcome Letter, Luggage Tags, and Information about Jamaica. That way I only paid for enough invitations for those who are actually attending.

great idea! wish I had thought of that or read your suggestion earlier...LOL!

[kclyburn]

Thanks all for your responses to the BIG question! I am having the same struggle. All the invites I have found that I like are super expensive and I am not a DIY bride. We were going to send about 150 invites, but through word of mouth, we already have 50 people booked (which by the way was my original max). I realize now, we will be cutting the list significantly, but do we go ahead and send an invite to those already booked. It seems like a waste of money considering they are already coming??! I did not send save the dates, just an email and phone conversations...thats how we got our 50. SO I am having the same dilema..to formally invite or not to. Kind of feel like I should save the money on all those 'extra' guests....UGH

[MSBRANDI]

I just started my planning but yesterday I created a facebook page with a few details, and a summary so that I can get a headcount of people that are interested. This is sort of a pre-invitation for me.

The people that respond no, will not get a save the date, but they will get and invite to my at home reception.

The people that respond maybe and yes will get the save the date which will include all the information for the trip.

The people that are not on facebook, will get a save the date newsletter unless they tell me no beforehand.

The reason why I am doing mine like this is because everyone on my guest list will be getting a invitation to the AHR regardless. I did not want to waste my time or money sending newsletters to people that probably will not go anyway.

[hockeymom97]

Well I sure hope it's ok to not send invitations via snail mail because I don't think we are this time! The first time around (for those of you that don't know we had to reschedule our date for 1 yr later) I sent out STD's about 11 months in advance - the STD's included our wedding web site. Then we sent out physical invites about 4 months before which included a postcard for the RSVP. We had received just about all the RSVP's back when we had to announce the date being rescheduled.

 

So I'm thinking that if people weren't able to make it the first time, they probably won't be able to make it this time, and I think it's silly to send everyone new invites when we know it's only going to be about a dozen people attending. So this time around I was thinking about just doing an e-vite and include the link to our web site which will have updated wedding info. What do you ladies think?

[barbiegirl_27]

Personally I think that's fine! You've already forked out the money to do STD's and invites, I wouldn't want to do that again!! Especially since you know it's just going to be a small group joining you! Go for it!

We're relying heavily on email/wedding website. It's just the easist to keep people up to date on the latest changes!

[hockeymom97]

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Originally Posted by barbiegirl_27 Personally I think that's fine! You've already forked out the money to do STD's and invites, I wouldn't want to do that again!! Especially since you know it's just going to be a small group joining you! Go for it! We're relying heavily on email/wedding website. It's just the easist to keep people up to date on the latest changes!

Thanks for the feedback! I def agree that it's super easy to keep everyone updated, but I think I underestimated how excited everyone would be to check the site for updates, lol. Our wedding site is just one of the free ones thru The Knot, so I think there's a way you can send out email blasts to your guests if something has been updated on your wedding site. If I do that, then maybe that will prompt people to check the site for new info and RSVP as well.

I guess I just want to make sure everyone knows that they are invited to our rescheduled wedding and even tho they may have declined the first invite, that this invite is still open to them as well. I have a feeling the answer will still be the same especially since we switched locations and the cost has went up, but just want to make sure everyone feels welcome