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3 BMs and NO groomsmen, what to do??

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#1 Diva

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    Posted 15 April 2010 - 09:25 AM

    So, here is my dilemma. I have 3 BMs and he has NO groomsmen! This is partially by choice and partially because his friends are too cheap to pay to come to the wedding (hey its the truth!)

    The wedding altogether will be pretty one sided (most guests are mine) and I offered to have my BMs FIs/husbands stand in as groomsmen but he said he would rather stand alone!

    So I know my pictures will be a little awkward, but how will everyone walk in?

    Has anyone else had more BMs than groomsmen?

    #2 lrdavis23

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      Posted 15 April 2010 - 09:43 AM

      OMG I'm soo glad you posted this, I was in the same boat for months because my FI best man had to back out and then most of his friends were also to cheap to come to the wedding so I had BM's and no groomsmen. Then finally 2 of his other close friends decided to go so now we at least have a best man and a groomsmen. I have 5 sisters and they were all suppose to be my BM's but since he only has 2 for his side, I had to only pick 2 of my sisters and that suckeddd.......
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      #3 VA_Bride

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        Posted 15 April 2010 - 09:48 AM

        I am having my sister do MOH duties, but FI will not have any groomsmen or BM. I think we are just going to wing it and have sister either already standing at front or walk down the isle with her husband escorting her. I have been trying to figure that part out myself!

        #4 MDLady

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          Posted 15 April 2010 - 10:09 AM

          That's a really tough one. I had to deal with that months ago when my FI was like "what are groomsmen" (he is from South America and they don't have BM or GM at weddings, just the MOH and BM). And I really wanted to have my 3 best friends be in the wedding. So I asked them anyway and they all agreed.

          Now the tough part was getting him to ask. He wasn't sure who was gonna be able to come and didn't want to ask unless he knew that those people were actually coming for sure. Luckily for me, his 2 cousins and a good friend decided to come so problem solved. But I was sweating there for a while..

          Don't worry, it might work out in the end. The guys don't think of these things way ahead of time as women do so he will probably come around and some of his friends might change their mind about coming. If not, then just work with what you got. It will still be a beautiful ceremony!

          #5 sungoddess_08

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            Posted 15 April 2010 - 10:16 AM

            I am in the same boat - except it's the opposite. I'm still a student so my friends that I was going to ask, are unable to come. My Sister is my MOH and my FI has already asked his 3 fridnds to be in the wedding!! So as of now we have 3 groomsmen and my MOH. I am distressed about how they will walk in - and I really think we should only have the MOH and the Best man stand up at the front with us - but I dont want the other guys to feel left out. I have no idea what to do.

            #6 skadow

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              Posted 17 April 2010 - 01:25 AM

              I am in the same boat...luckly my guy doesnt mind using some of my cousins to stand up on his side.

              #7 carolina24

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                Posted 17 April 2010 - 03:27 AM

                we're actually having the BMs walk in alone (the GM will already be up there) so you could always do that.

                #8 Stephani

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                  Posted 17 April 2010 - 04:45 AM

                  My FI is using my brother and his 2 brothers. Do you both have brothers?

                  #9 Diva

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                    Posted 18 April 2010 - 12:27 AM

                    Nope, both onlys so the brother thing is out :)

                    I will definitely have the BMs walk in alone, but then when they get up there it will be three of them behind me and no men behind him. I am wondering if that will be really awkward

                    #10 mswhatever

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                      Posted 18 April 2010 - 01:02 AM

                      I have 2 BMs and he has 1 grooms person. All his guy friends are unable to attend, do to finances. He did a really cool thing and asked his 12 year old niece to be his best person. She is over the moon. He will be surrounded and loving every minute of it!!! As we get closer and the rsvps are in, we might even the numbers. I decided to just not worry about it. We are getting married and it is going to be great, even or not!!!

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