Inviting Co-workers

[Amelie-Mellow]

I work in a very small office (9 people including myself), I only hang out with one or two people socially outside of office hours. We will be sending out our STD's soon, and I wonder if I need to invite everyone.

Does anyone know what the proper etiquette is? Am I suppose to invite all my co-workers, or can I just invite the 1 or 2 who I hang out with?

 

Thanks for your input!

 

A.

[DWbridetobe]

That's a tough call. I'd say just invite those that are close enough to you, that you would want them there. However, on the other hand, you KNOW that the office isn't going to shut down so that everyone can attend, so what's the harm? I say go with your gut. Will people be hurt if they aren't invited? Would it cause work drama? With the stress of planning a wedding, the last thing you need are more pissy people.

[hat0112]

I think that it would stir up trouble if you only invite the 2 people you hangout with and no one else. Even though you don’t hang out with the others they might be upset that you didn’t send out invites to them (and there are only 6 of them). People search out drama in offices (at least in all the ones I’ve worked in) and this will probably cause some.

 

Besides it can't hurt (or cost much) to send an extra 6 invites.

[mnh1983]

I'm wondering whether to invite co-workers as well. My company is also small. They know I am not getting married locally and that the wedding will be pretty small, so I don't think they will be offended if I don't invite them.

 

If I were you, I'd invite all or none. I think with so few people, it might hurt feelings if not everyone got an invite.

[Marie]

We have 35 in our company. And being the receptionist, I know everyone of them, most of them pretty well actually. However, there's only about 5 of them that I would call up in the evenings or the weekends. Sooooo I talked to them, stressed how I wanted them to go..and gave them their own invites-BUT I also posted up our invitation up on one of the floors herein the building-you could put it int he lunch room, or cafe or lobby or wherever......and anytime we talked about the wedding at work Id always say "you should totally come" lol.....and I always meant it........just want very formal about it.......in my case...to print another 35 invites or so was pricey....and I didnt want someone to get one then think "why did she invite me? we re not that close?"....lol.....so...thats what I done....let my best friends know I wanted them..and posted the invitation up...

[Stacy015]

I just invited the people that I regularly talk to and socialize with outside of work.

 

I would think that people you don't even talk to probably wouldn't want to come anyways, but would probably feel obligated to.

[MDLady]

I also work for a small company but I am still new here so I didn't feel the pressure to invite any of them. I did invite a couple of ladies to my bridal shower but more because they always ask me about my wedding and how things are going. I don't think they expect to be actually invited and even if they were, they wouldn't go. Do you think your coworkers actually expect to be invited?? I would just invite those that you actually call "friends" rather than coworkers.

[Karen&Rene]

My FI works for a small company too, but he's only inviting the people he considers friends. His coworkers like to travel and have the $$$, so he's pretty sure they would ALL come if they were invited. We need to keep our wedding small due to reception logistics, so that's why he decided to limit the number of coworkers he invited. If the # of guests you can have is not limited, and there's no coworkers that you particularly dislike, it probably wouldn't hurt to invite everyone.

[Stephani]

I find that you cannot just invite a few work colleagues without upsetting others

[Martini]

I'm also in the same boat. I work in an office of 15, but only socialize with 2 coworkers outside of work. I've already told them I'm inviting them. I highly doubt the rest would come and in any event they cannot shut down the office. We are having a reception upon our arrival, I was thinking of inviting all of my coworkers to that. Would that be "in your face" if I don't invite them to both?