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Anyone planning to do/done an arras ceremony in their wedding?

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#1 Diva

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    Posted 04 April 2010 - 08:10 PM

    I was thinking that I want to incorporate a DR tradition into our wedding since they will be graciously hosting our union. I want to do a sand ceremony as well.

    Has anyone done an arras in DR, or plan to? If so, where did you get yours, and how did it go?

    #2 cogswellgray

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      Posted 05 April 2010 - 11:39 AM

      what is it?

      #3 Diva

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        Posted 05 April 2010 - 12:22 PM

        FYI on the arras...

        The arras are thirteen coins, traditionally gold or silver – though gold plated coins, and coins or tokens made of other metals are now common as well. The coins themselves are usually presented and kept in some sort of elegant box or pouch.

        Typically the groom in some way presents the coins to his bride. It is said to symbolize that he will be there to protect and provide for her, and also symbolizes that he shares all his worldly processions with her – his wealth is her wealth. The thirteen coins are sometimes said to stand for love, trust, commitment, respect, joy, happiness, harmony, wisdom, wholeness, nurturing, caring, cooperation, and peace – traits the couple would want their marriage to be filled with.

        #4 melitanner

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          Posted 17 April 2010 - 11:10 PM

          I will actually be doing the arras portion as well as the rosary/lasso tradition as well. I am working with Pastor York to finalize the ceremony details to include these tradtitions

          #5 Diva

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            Posted 18 April 2010 - 12:24 AM

            Meli, where did you purchase your arras!!! I saw some online that I am thinking about ordering here:

            Silver Mexican Wedding Arras Large Silver or Gold Coins

            #6 carolina24

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              Posted 18 April 2010 - 02:52 AM

              i was thinking of doing the aras; my parents did it (it's a catholic/spanish tradition). but once i did some research, i realized that it's kinda religious....the aras represent jesus and his 12 disciples. FI and i aren't religious at all so i thought it might be disrespectful to do it. what do you think?

              #7 melitanner

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                Posted 18 April 2010 - 09:29 AM

                I'm actually looking to get the arras in a little novelty store here in jersey. Yes they are religious, but its also a tradition of him sharing with you his prosperity. I am traditionally catholic but not so " religious" ya know. In my culture we do the arras more-so like in the indian culture with the dowry.
                At the end of the day ...the traditions we all use have our own special meaning to them : )

                #8 Thomasjsgirl

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                  Posted 18 April 2010 - 10:01 AM

                  Sounds like a very pretty custom, religious or not!
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                  #9 TheFutureMrs.Sears

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                    Posted 18 April 2010 - 10:36 AM

                    I never heard of this, but it sounds really nice.

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                    #10 Diva

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                      Posted 18 April 2010 - 03:25 PM

                      I saw several explanations for it (dowry and religious) and we are not religious either but are using it to symbolize him sharing his prosperity with me. I think it would be more unique than the sand ceremony and add in some Spanish culture as well. My mom's side of the family is Pakistani, so I am aware of the whole dowry thing as well.

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