NO Father Daughter Dance?

[cookiemunchkin]

Not doing a father-daughter dance, but for different reasons than yours.  I agree with some of the ladies who have suggested doing the father-daughter dance at the same time as the mother-son dance.  If you'd still like to keep it even shorter, maybe ask your mom and FI's dad to cut in after the first minute or so and then each couple can finish the song together?  It would be a nice way to include your mom and FI's dad as well.

[STAC8228]

My dad has never really been there for me. & im a single mom, or was.. so im thinking of having my oldest son walk down the isle with me & having dance with both my boys.

[Ms Di]

SInce my dad was not a touchy feely person, he really did not believe in dancing and he is now one of God's angels...I wish I would have. That would have been a special moment shared with him that no one else can fill. I would go back and redo everything again just to share a moment like that with the man that loved me first, last and unconditionally.

 

[LisaMatterni]

My father is like that also but I did manage to convince him to have a dance with me. It was his first time dance on public so it's kinda uncomfortable for both of us at first but later on we find ourselves enjoyed with the music. 

[JayKay]

I am still on the fence about what to do.  I get along great with my father but I don't know if I want to do a dance with him.  It might be a last minute decision at the time to do one or not to.

[subbi]

Last year my dad passed away and that is one reason i wanted to have a destination wedding to kinda step away from the norm of thing like this since I know I will be missing my dad like crazy on that day. however my aunty is walking me down the isle so I'm skipping that part and we are just doing our dance, hopefully a very short one because i really can't imagine all eyes on me. 

Hope you make the right choice, that's a tough one.

[cherany]

I think we're going to skip this altogether, for several reasons.

 

The first is that I'm not close with my dad, but my partner is close with hers.  It would be weird to have only her dancing with her dad, because it would call so much attention to me not dancing with mine.  It would also be weird for me to dance with mine, just to even things out.

 

The second thing is that a same-sex wedding between two women sort of creates a question of whether it's our fathers we should dance with in the first place.  I mean, isn't the idea that you are stepping away from your dad being the man who takes care of you, to your husband being that man?  Does this mean we should dance with our mothers?  Ridiculous, right!   Neither of us is close with our mother, so it would be doubly awkward.

 

We're just planning to jump right into the normal reception dancing by having our wedding party and other close friends go for it straight away.  FI will discuss with her father before the wedding, so he knows it's not a slight to him.  She says he'll probably be relieved not to have to dance in front of a crowd like that. 

[heavenone]

Like many of you, I'm not a fan of being in the spotlight. Dancing with everyone starring at me is not high on my list. I'd rather just put on some fun music and have everyone get on the dance floor. No spotlight. But, my FMI is insisting on having a mother/son dance. 

[seka21]

I say do what makes you comfortable