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#11 debbmach

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    Posted 24 March 2010 - 08:45 PM

    I'm not taking my FI's last name. My name is part of my identity and it's reflective of my background. I don't want to lose that to have a plain 'Canadian' last name (sounds terrible, i know!). FI's not too happy about this but he's slowly coming around!

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    #12 Taylorbride

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      Posted 24 March 2010 - 09:33 PM

      It's crazy for me that you bring this up. I'm getting married in a couple of weeks and I'm actually pretty sad about losing my last name. I am 100% a daddy's girl and I love my last name.

      However, in my opinion, for me it's kind of a respect thing. I know it means a lot to FI to take his last name and he is number 1 in my life and I want to do it for him.

      #13 hoyt75

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        Posted 24 March 2010 - 10:30 PM

        I'm so glad that other's feel the same way! Though it's not a matter of legality since I live in the US, but it's just that I'm so attached to MY name. IT'S MY STINKIN' NAME! I just don't want to totally loose my name. Besides, I am the last true McGann in my family, and if we don't have children, then the name dies with me...

        #14 Melidell

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          Posted 24 March 2010 - 10:33 PM

          I'm not changing my name. I never considered it for a second. My name has been part of who I am for a long time and I like it- plus I'm getting married, not becoming a new person. I'd feel like I was losing part of my identity (that's just how I feel, not trying to imply that women who change their name loose their identity). FI doesn't mind at all, especially considering that he wouldn't want to have to change his name either. Of course, I am a feminist (and proud of it) so that's a factor, too. I'm really glad that women get to have this choice, whatever way they choose.

          Funny story- my mother wants to change her name back. My parents are still married. She says that back when she got married you really didn't have any choice other than to change your name- that it was just what was "done". She still misses her old name though (especially since her father passed away), so she's been thinking about just going back to it. I guess it runs in the family!
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          #15 KarenM

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            Posted 24 March 2010 - 10:36 PM

            I'm not taking FI's name, initially anyway. That may change when we have children though. And I think I'll keep my maiden name professionally. FI says it's totally up to me - he's fine with it either way.

            #16 Tifany

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              Posted 24 March 2010 - 10:41 PM

              I'm definitely keeping my maiden name professionally.

              However, I'm still on the fence about changing it on paper. I might double-barrel it, as it sounds good, but I'm not sure. Like another poster, I'm the last of my family name, so it's tough!

              #17 Angel-in-Law

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                Posted 25 March 2010 - 01:22 AM

                I'm keeping my last name both professionally and socially and I won't be using any hypenation. While I wouldn't label myself a feminist I identify with my last name and do not see any need to alter it because I am getting married. I told my FI this even before we got engaged and he said he was fine with it. He has since admitted that he is a bit sad by it. I offered that he could take my last name as a solution. That ended the issue. LOL.

                But seriously, I have a career in the legal profession and have no desire to go through all the hoops to change my name in the cases I am involved in, clients I deal with, documents, etc.

                #18 *Meagan*

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                  Posted 25 March 2010 - 01:28 AM

                  Hi there! I took my Husbands name and was going to be Meagan such and such but Meagan- maiden name-new name flows so much better. So I technically am keeping my maiden name as my middle name... but I like to say the whole thing out.. it really flows nicely and I still have my maiden name.. which is mine and unique to ME!

                  #19 hepre

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                    Posted 25 March 2010 - 07:43 AM

                    I am hyphenating my name since we have a 2yr old child. It will be long but I don't mind. 0riginally I was just going to keep my name but it will make it easier once my son is in school etc.

                    #20 Cindy*

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                      Posted 25 March 2010 - 08:07 AM

                      I am keeping my maiden name professionally. I have built up a reputation and am kown professionally by my maiden name and I don't want to give that up. FI knows that and is okay with it but really wants me to take his name otherwise. I am really struggling with changing it legally to Fi's name. I said that I would but the idea of giving up my maiden name is hard for me. My maiden name is so unique and, well, its mine. The main reason for me to change it is because I want to have the same name as our children. So I guess I will either hypenate (which really doesn't sound great) or change it to Fi's on paper. Professionally though, definitely no change.

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