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Am I wrong to be upset? (FMIL dress)

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#11 josietoms

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    Posted 24 March 2010 - 06:57 PM

    I have gone the complete opposite and given everyone a beach chic dress code and specified the colour (incorporating all the blues there are) - this was my partners idea as he saw some pictures of a wedding party wearing similiar colours and the pics looked great - though there are only 18 of us going. If you didnt mention not to wear blue before it could be difficult to raise the issue - just relax and im sure things will work out fine. As some others have said imagine she had got a bright red dress!
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    #12 mnh1983

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      Posted 24 March 2010 - 09:05 PM

      I personally wouldn't let something like that stress me out. I think it could be so much worse, especially if she picked some awful ugly dress! If she didn't explicitly know she shouldn't wear that color beforehand, then I would just let it go. Trust me, that is the last thing you'll be thinking about as you walk down the aisle!

      #13 Melidell

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        Posted 24 March 2010 - 10:54 PM

        I see where you're coming from (especially with a dress that looks a bit like the bridesmaid's dresses) but I agree that you should probably let it go. It's not worth making a fuss over. I also agree that it's better than a clashing colour! Don't feel badly for being thrown by it, though, we're all entitled to a few stressed out moments when we're planning a wedding.
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        #14 svetayasofiya

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          Posted 25 March 2010 - 09:40 AM

          I think you'll find that it will actually look nice i the pictures. Anyways, she's a mom who's son is getting married so clearly she is of the older age and NO one is going to think she is trying to be part of the bridal party. That's just ridiculous.

          Let it go. Start your relationship with your in-laws on the right foot. At least she cares enough to look pretty for you guys by wearing a lovely flowing dress... Don't underestimate how big a day it is for her too. :)

          #15 Island Bride

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            Posted 26 March 2010 - 02:56 AM

            Boy, I wish we could trade spots!! My FMIL bought a DARK navy dress!!! My colors are fuschia and orange and I wanted the moms to wear either or to match my party. I would even of settled with a sea blue.. but its so dark blue it almost looks black!! Oh and to top it off.. Shes a HEAVY smoker and she insists that we not keep her dress at our house free of all that! I'll just have to bring extra perfume

            All in all.. I would just suck it up like I gotta do. It sucks cuz its OUR day, but yeah well.. not everything always goes right. Lets just hope thats the worst thing that happens to us :P


            #16 hunny112

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              Posted 26 March 2010 - 11:30 AM

              I think you should be happy that your FMIL wants to be apart of the wedding by matching. I mean I understand that she is not apart of the wedding party persay, but she will soon be apart of a larger family, and it sounds as though she is trying to fit in with the whole wedding in General. The dresses are not the exact same as your bridesmaid dresses so I honestly wouldn't worry about it. It is not worth causing a huge ruckus over, and if she already bought the dress to wear specifially for your wedding well then i dunno. I just think that you should be happy that she is trying to fit in, and like the other girls said its not like she is wearing white, or a color that would clash with your colors, so it could be worse.

              #17 btn1091

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                Posted 02 April 2010 - 06:11 PM

                LOL... my mom was doing the same thing!! Before I picked out the BM's dresses she wanted to find something she liked and then have the girls match her. LOL!!! I stressed out about it then...but looking back it really wasn't that big of a deal!!

                #18 AshleyL

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                  Posted 28 July 2010 - 02:07 PM

                  Opposite problem - my fmil is MAKING her own grey dress. My colours are turquoise and bright yellow. She is also wearing long coral gloves and coral shoes. First of all I didn't even know she sewed ( never mentioned it in almost 10 years) and second - could she have even picked a more clashing combo with my wedding colours?!? Wow I honestly don't know what to say to her. I mean she's an adult - I cant tell her what to wear but yikes.
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                  #19 jajajaja

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                    Posted 28 July 2010 - 02:50 PM

                    LOL- my MIL totally clashed too.  However, I never really told her what to wear so I guess it's my fault.  I'm not even sure she knew our wedding colors.  Did you tell her you'd like her to match?  I guess you would think it's common sense to think about pictures and looking nice, but not everyone is really in tune like that.  Don't worry- she won't be in a ton of pics. ;)

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                    #20 JanineA

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                      Posted 28 July 2010 - 02:55 PM

                      I think its not such a big deal. I sent my FMIL and my mom a pic of the bridesmaid dresses and asked that they compliment the wedding colors but not match. I would say if its not a big deal don't worry about it, rather have her happy about what she is wearing than grumpy or worse trying to upset you by wearing something that clashes. I wouldn't make too much of it. If it bothers you too much to let it go then mention it to her, but if she protests then just let her wear it. Let her worry about looking like a BM you have too many other important things to worry about. Good luck!

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