Need some advice on RSVP wording...

[brookedanielle]

I've searched through other examples of bride's RSVP wording, and while there are some great examples... nothing is fitting my situation.

 

My wedding is 6/6 in St. Thomas and the AHR is 6/18 at home. I put together a pocketfold invitation (with separate inserts for the ceremony in St. Thomas and the reception at home). While I *think* I know exactly who is coming to the ceremony (about 20 people), I feel the need to put an RSVP spot for the ceremony on the card too... because my family is weird... and I have heard rumors of one family member telling another that they are coming... but they never actually told ME, the bride, of their intentions. Alas, I digress...

 

Here is what I have right now... I can no longer tell if it's perfectly clear what I am asking, and my family and friends are really being of no help.

RSVP

Kindly reply by May 1st, 2010

 

Name(s)___________________________________________ __

 

Ceremony – June 6 - St. Thomas, USVI

 

___ Our Bags Are Packed! Accept.

___ We Burn Easily! Decline.

Reception – June 18 - Latham, NY

___ Accept.

Please indicate your meal choices:

#___Sirloin Steak #___Chicken Marsala

#___Stuffed Sole #___Vegetarian Penne

___ Decline.

Please please please any help, advice, anything is greatly appreciated. Tear it apart if you feel the need, I just seriously need some input.

[Tanya Marie]

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Originally Posted by brookedanielle I've searched through other examples of bride's RSVP wording, and while there are some great examples... nothing is fitting my situation. My wedding is 6/6 in St. Thomas and the AHR is 6/18 at home. I put together a pocketfold invitation (with separate inserts for the ceremony in St. Thomas and the reception at home). While I *think* I know exactly who is coming to the ceremony (about 20 people), I feel the need to put an RSVP spot for the ceremony on the card too... because my family is weird... and I have heard rumors of one family member telling another that they are coming... but they never actually told ME, the bride, of their intentions. Alas, I digress... Here is what I have right now... I can no longer tell if it's perfectly clear what I am asking, and my family and friends are really being of no help. RSVP Kindly reply by May 1st, 2010 Name(s)___________________________________________ __ Ceremony – June 6 - St. Thomas, USVI ___ Our Bags Are Packed! Accept. ___ We Burn Easily! Decline. Reception – June 18 - Latham, NY ___ Accept. Please indicate your meal choices: #___Sirloin Steak #___Chicken Marsala #___Stuffed Sole #___Vegetarian Penne ___ Decline. Please please please any help, advice, anything is greatly appreciated. Tear it apart if you feel the need, I just seriously need some input.

I think that you should get rid of the "accept/Decline" after the wording for the Destination wedding, if anything put it before. This is how I worded it:

Please RSVP by August 2, 2010

Names:

________________________________________

Yes, we will see you on the beach ( you could add "in St. Thomas")

______# of Adults, _______# of children


______No, but we will be toasting from afar

We will be attending the welcome dinner on
Saturday, October 9, 2010( you could put "we/I will be attending the reception in Latham, NY on June 18 )

_______ Yes

#___Sirloin Steak #___Chicken Marsala
#___Stuffed Sole #___Vegetarian Penne

_______ No

I hope this helps, bc I know how you feel!! I went CRAZY for weeks trying to get it right!
Good Luck

[brookedanielle]

Ahhh Thank You!! It's always soo nice to get someone elses perspective, especially when they have been through it too! Much appreciated.

[liljuicy]

Hi! I would guess you are also having a reception in St. THomas after the ceremony too, right?? If yes, this is what i would do (feel free to ignore of course!!!!)

 

And PS, my family is the same way, my parents just randomly decide to invite people on a daily basis, and we have to literally track down half of our family because apparently they like to ignore the stamped RSVP cards and envelopes that came with their invites. Don't get it!

 

RSVP

Kindly reply by May 1st, 2010

 

Name(s)___________________________________________ __

 

St. Thomas Ceremony & Reception (June 6, 2010)

 

___ Our Bags Are Packed!

___ Sorry, We Burn Easily!

 

Latham, New York Reception (June 18, 2010)

 

___ Accept

___ Decline.

 

Please indicate your meal choice for the Latham Reception:

#___Sirloin Steak #___Chicken Marsala

#___Stuffed Sole #___Vegetarian Penne

[brookedanielle]

lol! Families! Glad I'm not alone.

 

Good suggestion. I didn't even think about how that could be confusing. Thanks!

 

Loving the suggestions, keep them coming!

[Sheree10]

one suggesttion is to number your rsvp's... not all guests remember to put their name on it. Also, they may not answer all of the questions( they may just respond to the wedding and not the AHR) so be prepared!

[brookedanielle]

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Originally Posted by Sheree10 one suggesttion is to number your rsvp's... not all guests remember to put their name on it. Also, they may not answer all of the questions( they may just respond to the wedding and not the AHR) so be prepared!

This is a wonderful idea - I can imagine some people in my family just deciding not to put their names on and sending it back along. Thanks for the suggestion, and I guess I should start tracking down my phone number list now, just to be prepared!

[gprr2011]

I just tweeked it a bit:

 

 

RSVP
Kindly reply by April 26^th, 2011

Name(s)___________________________________________

Beach Ceremony & Reception (June 26, 2011)

___ Our Bags Are Packed!
___ Sorry, We Burn Easily!

[veryvalentine]

like that one! so nice.