*sigh* ... my FMIL is driving me nuts!!!! i'm totally sharing this with you guys because I have no one else to vent to!!!
I designed our invites to the AHR last week... parents wanted to see them before we sent off to vista print - fine. we sent to FI's parents just to ask about the timing --- they are paying for it all and booked the hall and such, so we have no idea. and we thought putting a time of 5:00-10:00 would be a stealthy way to let people know that it is just a dinner no dance or speeches. Now remember that -- when FI and I agreed to have it at the hall (we wanted a backyard BBQ) we made it clear to his parents that it will just be dinner NO SPEECHES or dance.
Anyway the invite essentially said:
Laura (middle name + last name)
Chris (middle name + last name)
Will be getting married
April 9, 2011
in a small ceremony on
the island of Jamaica
Please join them for a
celebratory Polish feast
once they have returned
June 25, 2011
General Sikorski Hall
Please RSVP via email by May 28, 2011
***our email address***
Simple and explanatory right???? The working fit the card perfectly and looked good.
Are you ready?? ****please tell me if it's just my stress taking over and it really isn't that bad... but I got the feeling that FMIL is essentially re-writing our invites for us***
"Maybe you could say something like â€¦â€.join us for a celebratory get-together of delicious food and drink over great conversation between friends and familyâ€ If you plan to have a photo collage running of the wedding in Jamaica, you might want to mention that also somehow. (By the way, people who arenâ€™t going on the trip have expressed their hope that you will do so).
How about mentioning Saturday, June 25th
Where you say General Sikorski Polish Veteranâ€™s Hall, you should also state (Lower Level). As you know, they can either enter from the front entrance and head down the stairs or come around the back entrance and enter directly through the lower level entrance doors.
We feel strongly that some friends who rarely see each other might wish to fully enjoy this opportunity to spend time together and it would be pretty distasteful to insist that they have to leave by 10:00pm. At traditional weddings, the buffet isnâ€™t even served until 11:00pm. If you think about it, by the time theyâ€™ve had dinner, then coffee, dessert, etc., time will fly. Maybe one or two of your friends might want to get up and say something. Isnâ€™t Mikey going to sing something?
As for the RSVP, we think you should also provide a phone number. Some might prefer to phone rather than email. Something you maybe didnâ€™t think of is that some people will want direction as to a wedding gift. I donâ€™t know if you just want to leave that out and people will maybe phone us folks for direction and/or suggestions to which we would tactfully reply that a monetary gift would be preferable. The other thing is that with the reply cards people usually mail back, they state how many people will be attending. Eg. Our friends from Kitchener â€“ there could be 4 coming or only 2. Of course, youâ€™ll need to know that information in order to know how much food to order from the kitchen. So, it should maybe read as follows:
â€œPlease reply giving number of persons attending by May 28th to: our phone # and email"
To be 100% honest, I really wish I didn't have to go through with this AHR.... ugh!!