Dumped by a BM via text message!
Posted 18 March 2010 - 09:19 PM
Tonight while I was at the gym (and she knew I would be there and knew that I won't take my phone) she sent me a text message telling me she won't be coming to my wedding and that our friendship is over! She told me that she feels we've grown apart but she's not willing to work on this friendship because she's 31 and she has to start making decisions for herself?!?! I agree we've grown apart but it had more to do with jealousy of our other best friend dating my FI's best friend.
She said she always felt left out.. but only because she would always cancel and feels none of us have anything in common anymore. She's right, but it's only because she's made some pretty stupid choices lately - moving in with a guy she was just barely dating... cheating on him... the list goes on.
Honestly, it's a weight lifted off my shoulders. I knew we weren't as close as we used to be, but I still loved her and cared for her.
Before tonight I had decided to not have a MOH but instead just 4 BM's. I knew if I'd chosen the one I truly wanted as my MOH, it would have upset her... so I didn't do it for her?? What was I thinking?? This is my wedding!!!
I can go to bed tonight knowing I was always a good friend to her and if she doesn't want to my friend or a part of my life... then I just have to let her go.
C'est la vie!
Posted 18 March 2010 - 09:59 PM
I'm sure it's a blessing that she backed out -- but if she's going to do so in such a disrespectful and immature way, then you do not need her in your life anyways!
Posted 18 March 2010 - 10:02 PM
Hey, are you now going to ask your bestie to be your MOH now that you're not worried about "hurting someone else's feelings?" I think you should go for it.
Good luck with everything.
Posted 18 March 2010 - 11:20 PM
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Posted 19 March 2010 - 08:53 AM
Don't let it bug you too much...
Posted 19 March 2010 - 09:26 AM
I love being a Mrs.!
Posted 19 March 2010 - 10:39 AM
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