| Originally Posted by Melidell |
Well my ignorant and irresponsible self would like to thank you for that bit of judgement. So would my "designer" Saint Bernard, whom I did indeed purchase from a responsible breeder and provide a good home for. I also have a rescued shelter "mutt" and a rescued cat- does that make me any brighter a bulb at all? I guess I should also have gotten rid of my cat years ago when I battled with major depression- I had no idea it made me an unfit pet owner- thanks for opening my eyes for me. I guess my overall "duh" factor made me incapable of seeing the light- and to think that all this time I thought I was a well educated person with a high IQ.
"Good Friend" bails out of wedding to get a dog?
Posted 16 March 2010 - 01:39 AM
Posted 16 March 2010 - 02:02 AM
Posted 16 March 2010 - 02:14 AM
Posted 16 March 2010 - 11:46 AM
Posted 17 March 2010 - 11:12 AM
Shake it off. As dissapointing as it is, you only want people there that are really happy for you and are thinking of you.
Posted 26 May 2010 - 02:39 PM
Posted 26 May 2010 - 03:47 PM
| Originally Posted by -Kate- |
Are you for real?
Maybe she is depressed because her friend is getting married and she is so alone she has to buy a pet to keep company. She doesn't even have a person in her life she trusts enough to watch her dog. That's pretty sad.
I wouldn't write her off. As a person who is 2 years out from being married, I can't even remember who did/didn't come to my wedding. It really won't matter to you in a couple years and it will make you feel better to know you stuck by a friend going through rough times.
Also as another who's been married a little over two years, I assure you that all the pain that you feel regarding people not coming to your wedding will diminish after awhile. I had a few family members decide to go on vacations either a month before or a month after my wedding. At first I was pissed and really hurt. I harbored a lot of resentment, but now, I realize that we chose the DW. We can't control how others will use their finances. Sure it's really nice to see there are people willing to plop down some serious $$$ to go, but not everyone has the same priorities.
Now I found myself on the other side of this dilemma. I recently had a family member announce that she was planning a DW to Alaska. My first instinct was NOOOOOO! We like to spend our vacations in tropical environments and here I was having to show love and support by giving up my idea of what a vacation is. We were begrudgingly planning to go, but just found out she decided not to do it there. This experience gave me a little more perspective of how my wedding may have put others in the same position. If it wasn't a way they would enjoy spending their money, they had to debate going to show their love and support to make ME happy, or spending their hard earned dollars on something that would make THEM happy. It's not an easy decision at all and why should my happiness trump theirs? KWIM?
Just wanted to add two cents in from another perspective.
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